Oooh, this could be interesting...

[LollipopViolet]

2 years ago, when I was 18, I went out with a 28 year old for about 6 weeks. He was my first boyfriend. Didn't end well. Not been in any kind of relationship since.

I've turned a corner a bit, I think! Met a guy a couple of months back in a pub, unfortunately, while very, very drunk. Anyway, have had him on FB since then, and today sent him my Blackberry PIN. Also casually asked how he was and apologized for being a drunken idiot (didn't do anything bad, just made NO sense!). He replied back that he didn't think I was that bad, and was actually funny! And he's going to add me on Blackberry Messenger in a bit.

Thing is, I really, really like him and want to get to know him. So, will see how this pans out. He's 24, so a bit closer in age, has a job and drives. And didn't try to do ANYTHING to take advantage of me or my mates (we were all drunk to some degree )

But the fact that I've got these feelings again is great, just hope he feels the same way! And that he doesn't turn out to be a weirdo, like my ex! But I'm getting way ahead of myself.

But woo! I'm finally ready for a relationship again!

Sorry, just feel really pleased, I know it's not a big deal really, just feels like it because I'm not well versed in relationships...

As you were :).

Sorry, just leapt out at me "he's got a job and he drives". Is that the standard?

Anyway, good luck

Bless

Thank you. :)

Not sure why I wrote that bit actually! To clarify, if someone is a caring person and respects me, I don't mind if they do/don't drive or have a job.

Do you know what, I'm gonna shut up now, I can see no way of explaining myself without sounding weird!

Lollipop, I am going to give you some advice which you are very free to ignore.

Do not get so drunk, it seems a larf at 20, but it shows a lack of respect for yourself and invites the same lack of respect from others. Or do, because it is fun now and then, but only in private, with mates, not when you are in public.

Believe that you are great, do not accept any man who less than worships you and make sure that he is kind, decent and solvent.

I am much older than you and I know these things.

I would like to second Hully's statement. Good advice.

Also older. Been there, done that, really wish I hadnt.

Aw lollipop, that is lovely that you feel happy.

Can I add my advice to hully's (I am very, very old). It is lovely that you feel ready for a relationship, but the most important thing is learning how to become friends with a range of really nice decent men. Try not to see all men as potential relationship material, just enjoy their company.

And most of all, enjoy your own self, your own company, your own time with friends. Make the most of every day as it is now.

Beethoven - I think it is code for not a feckless, sponging idiot who can actually make it out of bed every day, does not depend on dealing blow for cash, and won't want to be ferried about everywhere by her like she's some sort of taxi service :)

Good luck with him!

When you do start dating him come on here for any advice so you don't waste your time if he is a wrong 'un.

Have fun! :)

Hully's advice is absolutely great.

At my great age I can see that so many of the stupid and unsafe things I did in the past were because I'd had too much to drink.

And yes too about the job and car - we don't know what kind of person she was involved with before - anyone who's been a taxi driver or taxi payer for someone else or had to spend their money on a guy who can't get out of bed will understand her.

LollipopViolet - Aww lovely

But.... don't get to ahead of yourslef.
men - say these but half the time they don't do them.