Ok Ok. I know we all do it, bitch to our friends about our dh's (or at least I do 
but not very often and only if he is being a total prick..
But my friend let's call her Jane, is always giving out about her dh. I know them both very well, and I also know that he is a really good guy, devoted dh and father, thoughtful caring and supportive of her throughout their marriage. I know this because I have seen how he has supported her through many family crises, illness, death of her parents etc and has also helped out her siblings financially and given them practical help like doing bits of DIY around the house for them when needed.
He is also generous to her on birthdays and Christmas, with gifts and treating her to weekends away shopping and spas etc
So really, when I rock up to her house for a cuppa and hear yet another rant about her "selfish" and "thoughtless" dh, it really is bloody hard to listen to. And when we are all out together as couples, when he is talking, she interrupts him, cuts him short, or dismissed what he says and throws her eyes up tp heaven when he talks.
Its not just me who notices this. My dh doesnt know how this guy puts up with Jane and any of my other friends who know them think she is spoiled and needs to get real.
Problem is no one can point this out to her as she is a little bit volatile argumentative and would probably take it really badly if she was criticised in this way.
But am finding it harder and harder to spend time with her when she cannot appreciate what she has, especially when I know so many other women who have real problems in their marriages, she doesnt know how damn lucky she is! 