Ok so a few weeks ago I posted a thread about my mother and the lovely 'Pete' in regards to my wedding. Although I have distanced myself in those few weeks, I now have a different problem with them...
My grandmother (mum's mum) is nearly 80 and quite infirm. She cant go out on her own and as her other daughter (my aunt) lives in USA, she relys on mum and Pete to do things for her, take her to GP appointments etc.
Today I called in to see grandmother and my mum and Pete had been just before me. GM was really upset. I asked why and couldnt believe what she told me. I'll try to keep this as brief as possible.
Mum and Pete take GM food shopping once a week, they also take her to opticians, GP, hospital as required. For this, they charge her 
half of her benefit every week - GM was unsure which benefit but may be Incapacity or DLA? - this amounts to about £90 a month and is for petrol, general wear and tear on the car etc
Last week GM's washer/dryer broke down, mum and Pete took her to buy a new one. They made her buy the cheapest most basic washer in Currys. Told her she didnt need a dryer and could use a clothes horse or radiators. Now GM has always had a dryer and so is used to having one. She isnt short of a penny in any way so could easily have afforded a washer/dryer IYSWIM.
GM wants a new TV, she has one which is about 10 years old and works perfectly but it takes up too much space and she wants a new one with a flat screen which will fit into the alcove much better plus give her more space. Mum and Pete have said no, its a waste of money, the one she has works fine etc.
When they take her shopping they wont let her buy certain things. I.e. she cant buy coleslaw because it only comes in tubs which are too big for her alone to eat and so half will be wasted.
What they dont seem to understand is that it's her money and if she wants to waste it then why shouldnt she? She's saved all her life and now they wont let her spend it?!
I think (and call me cynical if you want!) that they dont want her to spend all her money and not leave anything to them when she does eventually die. They are very selfish and greedy and I honestly think this is the reason.
Now, I work full time and also have DD so cant do the GP, hospital, optician appointments or I would.
What do I do? I'm really quite shocked at what I heard today (although I dont put it past them at all!), but GM wont say anything to them because she relys on them to ferry her around and she doesnt have anyone else so doesnt want to upset them. She's also quite scared of them I think and does whatever they tell her! i could do the once a week shopping but that will upset them and they could then stop taking her to appointments.
Theres actually quite a bit more to this but I'll end typing war and peace if I carry on w
whilst also getting myself even more annoyed!
Help please!