maritalaffairs.co.uk

[Arghhwastaken]

So, short history

Me and DH are having relationship troubles because I don't fancy him anymore and can't bring myself to be affectionate with him...We have had many issues over the years with spending, job and affection issues where I was doormatlike and tried to keep family together.

Anyway, DH has registered with a website called maritalaffairs.co.uk...or something similar.
I noticed it on the internet history and snooped hard enough to obtain his log in and see that he had just a rudimentary profile.

Now, I'm not angry just disappointed.
I think that he has done this just to try and make me jealous.

Do I, a) confront him with this
b) have some fun first and then confront him with this.

Am thinking I could log on and complete his profile, add picture and description of what he is looking for in a marital affair...

Or is it just not worth my effort.
Am going to be offline for a while, but will try to log in later and see what you all think.

Why are you disappointed?

Do you no longer have sex with him at all?

Perhaps he is not trying to make you jealous. Perhaps he is seeking to stay married but fulfill his need for affection and sex

After my H passed away, I found his membership on his computer to this particular site and to another couple of similar sites. Not sure how I would have handled it if he was still around to tackle. He had actually met up with someone through the site.

He would need to pay a subscription to actually talk to other members, if hes not done that then all he can do is look and send a 'wink', pretty harmless at that stage. He may just want a 'bit of fun', but it could escalate.

maybe you should question exactly how you feel about it, then decide from there. If you find yourself feeling upset/angry/jealous maybe you have more feelings for him than you are admitting to yourself. If you really don't care you could just leave him to it, it may improve his mood.

It would be good if you could be straight with one another

Why not join up yourself under an alias and get him going.

If he did it to make you jealous (and by the way, he's a real catch if he did) then why did you have to snoop to find out the information? Surely he would've 'accidentally' kept the site open?

Spam, anyone?

It's either that exact website , or it isn't [or similar?).

If this is genuine...

Your suggestion that you

"have some fun first and then confront him with this"

Some fun? Get a divorce. Seriously. If you're not devastated he's been on this website, it's time to call it quits

Just thinking same thing Longtall

Hi, thanks for your replies. I am genuine. I have posted on here about my issues before, but wanted to name change since DH has been checking up on me a lot recently.

I have tried to be intimate with DH, we have sex fortnightly probably, but this all stems back from being rejected by him when I tried to kiss him once during sex, a few months ago.
I think mentally I have shut down from him.

I'm not devastated that he has been on the website because I do think it was just to try and give me a "wake up call"
He had not left the screen on, but had left it in the computer history, which when you go to favourites is sometimes open.

This morning though, it looks like he has deleted it.

I don't know, I guess once you stop fancying someone, there is probably no fixing that is there? :(

i found out that my husband had been on there confronted him(i was pregnant at the time)said he was sorry just wanted to make himself feel better by talking to other women.when my daughter was 4weeks old found out that he had been having an affair with another woman for 5 months.seemed like it all started on these types of websites.it obviously wasnt enough for him so went out looking for the real thing.