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Do you and your OH still kiss?

49 replies

DogDays · 01/09/2010 07:09

I noticed a few weeks ago that DP and I never kiss anymore. On a night time, we go to bed and if sex isnt on his mind he doesnt even attempt to kiss me, just goes straight to sleep. Since I noticed it, I have missed it more.
Is it normal for couples to stop the "kissing thing" after a year or so together?

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alypaly · 01/09/2010 11:47

i really miss a good snog...i get a peck these days if im lucky.

jumpforjoy · 01/09/2010 12:07

Really miss snogging my DP, altho we did have a wonderful snog on Saturday night after we both a bit tipsy.

We do have good bye pecks and he is very tactile at times, altho also very reserved when his DC are around!!

At bedtime DP loves spoons position. When we started sleeping together I wasn't so keen, as I like my space whilst sleeping, but when I don't see him for weeks on end, a night in the spoons position is lovely and romantic and brings us closer together.

Perhaps we should start a national snog day, as it seems everyone misses this intimacy Wink

venusandmars · 01/09/2010 12:08

Mmmmm lots of kissing - proper kissing. I have forbidden him to kiss me like he would kiss his mother.

ThatDamnDog · 01/09/2010 18:30

venusandmars - DP complains bitterly if he only gets a "married kiss" - you know the sort, a cursory peck. Apparently that's where it all went wrong with his wife so he's more careful this time!

Taghain · 02/09/2010 10:58

Still kissing DP every day, nice kisses & snogs even if without tongues. We cuddle at night, too. Sex isn't so frequent now after 36 years together, it's down to once every one or two weeks unless we're away on holiday.

pinkdolly · 02/09/2010 20:29

Lol- this reminds me of a couple of days ago.

Dh and I were having a good snog in the bedroom (middle of day, fully dressed and standing- so no kinky business) we were suddenly aware of a little face peering through our window (we live in a bungalow). Our dd (7) had caught us. She walked away really quietly and wouldn't come back when we called her. When I did manage to get hold of her and have a chat she was less than impressed.

I said- Am I not allowed to kiss daddy then? she replied v, matter of factly "not like that!"

I hope we haven't scarred her for life- we are not even 30 yet but will have been married for 10 years in April and have been together since we were 17.

2010Dad · 02/09/2010 20:38

Lot's of kissing and cuddling in this house. We've been together for 17 years (since we were 16) and always felt that it's crucial and at the heart of any loving relationship.

Snogs are a bit thin on the ground at present, but that's due to a 4 month old DS attached to DW's breast much of the time, the lucky bugger.

Hulababy · 02/09/2010 20:41

Been with DH since we were 16y, now been together 20 years and married for 12y. Still hugs and kisses a plenty.

LackingInspiration · 02/09/2010 20:43

pinkdolly - I'm afraid we have quick snogs in front of our children...not deliberately, you understand, but we're fairly open with our PDAs! I asked my DD1 (7) if it embarrassed her and she looked at me like she thought I was mad, shrugged her shoulders and said 'no'. Grin I guess it's what you're used to!

IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 20:43

Oh this thread is making me sad, I can't remember the last time be and DP kissed.

LackingInspiration · 02/09/2010 21:15

Go and snog him now, Jareth!

IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 21:29

nah, he's working

NomDePlume · 02/09/2010 21:42

Yes we do still kiss. Been together 10yrs, married 7

IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 21:47

:(

LackingInspiration · 02/09/2010 21:49

Snog him as soon as he stops.

IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 21:52

He's just walked downstairs. talking to me.

nope.. gone back upstairs to work.

meh.

onlyjoking9329 · 02/09/2010 22:02

I've been with my fiancé for almost 50 weeks Grin and we are both very tactile so lots of hugging and kissing going on my three kids get lots of hugs too.

KarmaAngel · 02/09/2010 22:06

Yes we do, a kiss will quite often turn into a snog. Blush Much to DSD's disgust. Grin Been together for 15 years.

If you've been together 2 years and it's already dwindling I would be worried TBH. Sad

LackingInspiration · 02/09/2010 22:15

I don't get this...if those of you who don't have kisses with your partners are upset by it, why don't you just, um, kiss them!?

Karma - I wouldn't be worried...it's easy to forget to have physical contact, and then for it to become a big deal to initiate some. But once you do, unless there's a real problem in the relationship, things are likely to improve.

TDaDa · 02/09/2010 23:01

all pecks and no snogs here.....

KerryMumbles · 02/09/2010 23:02

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Lauriefairycake · 02/09/2010 23:08

we too snog all the time and not just as a prelude to sex

but we've only been together 7 years

PurpleLostPrincess · 03/09/2010 00:10

Just had our 8th wedding anniversary, still kiss at random times in the day and steal a quick snog if the kids aren't around Shock. When in bed, I'm often the first to lie down and we seem to have a little tradition that I kiss his shoulder before I settle to sleep. We have always been touchy-feely in our relationship though, and if we're having a difficult time, we talk about it. When we're actually 'doing the deed', there's lots of snogging for the first little while... BlushGrin

Talk to each other about it, that's what relationships are about...

BohoHobo · 03/09/2010 11:39

Its not normal here, we have been together for over 10 years and still kiss every time we meet/part/morning/bedtime the lot x

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