Should I contact an ex

[Beethoven]

(apologies, I posted this in AIBU, but thought it might get more traction here)

I was in a short (six-months) relationship that was very intense for both of us. I prevaricated in the relationship because I didn't know what I wanted, and partly because I could foresee problems (that were largely due to circumstance). He told me that I was the perfect woman for him, and erotically, we seemed to be a perfect match.

Now, a few months on, I see him on Facebook, and can't help thinking that perhaps I was stupid to let him go, and I'm tempted to write a letter. However, I don't know whether he's seeing anyone, so it stir up a hornet's nest for him, and a potential unknown other.

Would I be unreasonable to contact him?

No you shouldn't contacthum. From your post it sounds like your gut feeling is that you shouldn't. Go with your gut feeling.

I don't think there is any harm in contacting him, but I suppose it all depends on how it was left.

Did you hurt him badly?
Why did you prevaricate? Did you have "issues" that are now clearer?
Have the circumstances that appeared to possibly cause problems, changed?
Would he feel really mucked about if you got in touch?

If you do get in touch I'd keep it light and just say "Hi how are you doing, I was abit hasty/ silly...whatever," but wouldn't say too much until you know how things are now.

I'm fairly sure I hurt him, my prevarication was over the idea that it would be a long distance relationship for five years.

I'm certainly tempted to write, but I'll have to consider a little more whether it would be wise. My temptation is perhaps because the spark we had felt so close to being "the one" (if such a one exists)

What do you have to lose?
Just an ignored email/letter, or a "no thanks".
Don't let it weigh you down- just do it!

But DON'T do it if the issue over distance is the same- that's not fair.