Anyone hired an investigator?

[Bitznbobznbotz]

I'm asking on behalf of a pal, (and I've name changed as other people know me on here)

Her husband has been caught texting another woman with "what are you wearing", "miss you" "love you" (my pal found his phone and read the texts)
So he won't tell her who it is, he is being really nasty to her now (guilt I think?!) claims "it's just texting" and that he never "shagged her" and that she should stop "going on"

So my pal is desperate to know who it is that he's been fooling around with, (they have two kids) and as he won't tell her who it is, she thinks she and he can only move on if she knows who the OW is.

So has anybody ever hired an investigator? How much is it?

Knowing who the woman is won't help them move on, it'll concretise everything. If anything it'll make it more impossible for her to survive this.

The OW is any woman that'll go for it, if not that particular woman, another one.

HE is the one that is betraying her, he is the one breaking his promises.

She needs to ice him out, totally and utterly sling him out of the house. That'll make him think a bit.

If it IS only texting, then the threat of losing all he has for a few SMS may bring him to his senses. If it doesn't, she is better off knowing now, rather than later.

He must be crazy if he thinks she'll stop asking questions now that he's given such unsatisfactory answers. If he's saying he loves someone else then obviously she has to act.

I don't know how much an investigator is but there are a lot of adverts for them - just search in your area.

I did some work for a private investigation company once and was told how they do a lot of the work. I'm not prepared to say it on here but if you want to email me at bonnieuk at hotmail dot com then I can let you know.

But, LittleMissHissyFit, it does help if you see a solicitor, if you can say who the other woman is, otherwise you can be accused of paranoia.

Hmm, true atswim, but you don't need a solicitor to kick him out on his sorry cheating arse....

She won't drop this bone anytime soon, that is for sure, it's not even about finding out who the woman is, it's just to have the information.

He is being nasty cos he wants it all to go away...

Poor woman, i hope she can find some peace somewhere, good for you atswim for offering to help. nice one!

Get the number from the text's - call her and ask her ?

I'm sorry to say this, but I would not bother with a PI in her shoes.

Caught texting words of love and sex with another woman and he doesn't even apologize, try to make up, promise it will never happen again etc but is "nasty to her"? Your friend should kick him out, imho. If there is any chance that this relationship will get back on track, it will happen once he sees what he has to lose.

Wonder how much it costs!