help - friend asking what to do... no idea

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Friend of mine has just broken up with her DH, after having an emotional affair all summer with another of our friends.

they're all extremely catholic and the OM is in the process of moving away (which he knew about before the affair started). OM is miserable to the point of suicide about moving away. Friend is miserably at her parents'. Friend's (D)H is miserably at his parents'.

OM and friend are asking me what to do, saying they don't know what to say or do etc.
I haven't a clue and particularly haven't a clue how their faith and the rules of their religion fit in with all this, i.e. if there is anything I should be advising in particular.

My only helpful real viewpoint is that friend and OM are distinctly better suited to each other than friend and her DH.

I'm saying stay calm, don't make any hasty decisions, and trying to make sure they each have somewhere to stay and that they each keep talking.

Any advice, anyone?

I'd think you are doing the right thing. Listen, be sympathetic, but don't give advice. They have to sort this out themselves and, when they have, then you will still be there but unable to be blamed for your 'interference'.

Try not to take sides BUT in the end you may have to choose between them.