If I got rid of all the toxic people in my life...

[poshsinglemum]

I wouldn't have many people in my life. dd and one or two close mates. I feel quite lonely when I look at it like that. Mabe I'm a toxic friend too!

I have got rid of all the toxic people in my life and I am left with a husband, 3 kids and a couple of friends. It is quality, not quantity. :)

ditto

i would be left with me and my dcs and possibly my mum on a good day.

i am slowly learning that I've got me and that's all i ever really had or will have.

It would be bearable if I had a loving partner. I'm talking to a lot of nice men on match.com and I'm taking it VERY slowly.

i joined match aswell but i just can't bring myself to start chatting with anyone. tbh, i don't think i even want a partner. i just would like to feel complete without one for a while and get to a point where a partner would be a nice bonus to life.

posh
I feel the same way. I have a few frenemies and I keep in touch because I can't break it off, but recently went on holiday with one of them and it was a fucking nightmare. I have a few uni friends that I have nothing in common with anymore. And I have my sister. That's it. I don't feel lonely, but I do envy people at work who whunge about having to go to 6 or 8 weddings every summer. They have school friends, uni friends, work friends, neighbours, parents' friends, whatever. They get invited to loads of weddings. I don't think I have been to 6 weddings in my life!
Ho hum.

posh, if you are relying on a bloody bloke to complete your happiness, you are barking up the wrong tree.

it is better to have literally one friend in the world than a room full of non-friends, and I am not even talking about toxics here.

Be brave, get rid of all those that drain you, keep only those that allow you to be you, and love you for it anyway

learn to love life with yourself, life is never, ever bearable because of a partner. Life is bearable because of what WE ourselves make of it.

Chin up girl, take a break from the blokes and fall in love with yourself. That'll give you the strength to have that toxic friend clear out you need to do.

everyone seems quite down tonight. is there something in the air?

Hello Posh, I've read a few of your posts recentley regarding your 'friends' and they really don't sound nice, especially that one on your birthday.

Don't hang out with anyone who you don't enjoy being with.

I had a major cull when h left and I found out who my real friends are and I feel so much better.

I sometimes do feel 'alone' but I don't feel lonely. I would however feel lonely I think if I spent time with people I didn't want to be with.

Just to say since my split with X i have only kept in touch with people that are truly positive for me.When i meet with them you can feel the good vibes ,everyone else are just emotional vampires ,for years they sucked the life blood out of me and left me with all their negative baggage.I dont have that anymore,if they dont love and support me they can piss off.