Personal sex question but want to see if it is biologically the same for others and what can be done

[sorrento56]

Just before DH is about to come I really feel like I will as well, ie I feel a different sensation from his penis and would come if he reacted like that for a bit longer. At that point though he can't stop and if I asked him too and then carried on the feelings are gone from me.

Malificence - don't mean to be rude but is there any particular ring that you are recommending? There is a cerain delight in your description on the subject.....Jesus , it's Sunday morning!

Silly question here - I can't orgasm through penetration, but could a vibrating cock-ring help me to? Partner would love it I'm sure as I find it very difficult to come without a bullet (sigh!)

I don't know what any of you are on about- penetration doesn't do it for me at all. Whether I am on top or under or any way up.

Maybe we have spent 25 years doing it the wrong way

Sometimes helps if DH can manage more than one trick at a time?

"Maybe there is a female equivalent of kind of pulsating strongly during orgasm? I imagine that would feel good to a man."

Of course there is! It's more that your muscles at the entrance contract and release a few times, you can feel the vice like ring of muscle with your fingers so it must feel fantastic for a man (as opposed to the ones farther up that hold a tampon in place) at orgasm and your cervix jumps about a bit, my clitoris does pulse too - if I'm on top, or on all fours come to think of it, it starts DH off every time.

I could only orgasm via direct clitoral stimulation until a couple of years ago, the angle of penetration and your movement is v. important for vaginal orgasm, a pillow under your bum or his may work, or him sitting more upright with you sat on him, or you flat on your front with a pillow under your hips, it's all about the angles.

Maybe if you have had 2 babies as I have Mal, adn a repair op, things aren't just as they used to be down there. I am okay, but I don't think that my bits are as sensitive or the same as they were before DCs- Iknow youhave only 1 DC so maybe your bits didn't take so much of a hammering?

I hope to be pleasantly surprised one day but perhaps the cutting and sewing down there did some nerve damage.

Could be, I had a nasty tear with DD but healed very well. I do find the front wall of my vagina more sensitive/responsive than my clitoris as I've got older though.

...Honey id you feel the earth move?

Well presumably there is a good reason why his penis is throbbing - it's squeezing the semen up. If that's what it is then I imagine it's too late for any control though.

purplepeony- I have 3 dc's and am on entirely the same page as you!

Whenever I see an orgasm thread on here I take avid interest, but to be fair what learn never really transfers over to real life.

Oh hum.

Lol pants
I have done a bit of readng on this on the web and it seems as if almost 75%-80% of women don't get there through penetration- so it's all the other lot who are weird, not us.

Hmm. Good to know! I'm glad I'm with the majority somewhere in my life!!!

Yes I feel the same - I think it's a combination of him thrusting differntly as well as what others have already said...

damn shame we can't bottle it!

I've had four children, purplepeony, all vaginally, and the first with a nasty tear. I find sex way better than I ever did pre-children and never used to orgasm just through penetration. I have the best orgasms through penetration now though!

And I love that throbbing bit too, OP. Do you need a bit more foreplay to start with, to get you really close to coming before he actually sticks his willy into you?

while I'm here can I just ask is it weird that I can only orgasm during sex if I'm on top? I always assumed it's because of my tilted womb...

Lacking that's reassuring but maybe it's more because women supposedly find organsm easier/are less inhibited as they get older, depsite what has happened to their bits along the way?

As part of my repair I had the front wall cut and stitched, but I am not sure that part of the vagina has many nerve endings anyway. That's why this VO thingy puzzles me- all the books on anatomy say the only nerve endings are at the entrance and ther is great dispute over whether a G spot even exists.

I assume we are all talking about clitoral orgasms?
In which case a good position is laying flat on your front (I have to help myself out though, cant do it through penetration alone)

I can only come if Im on top too, well, with my current DH, and my first boyf anyway. With my exH I could come with him on top sort of grinding, but cant do it with anyone else. Godammit.

I feel like a freak, cuz oral just doesnt do it for me, unless Im watching porn

< scuttles off mortified that Im talking about this >

Purple - I think I love my own body more...I feel more sexy...because of being so impressed and in awe of what it's done ie. creating and carrying four new lives. So it's partly physical, but partly about how I subconsiously feel about my body. I was always very unhibited about my body when I was with DH before we had children, so I don't think it's age, though.

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OK, I want to know how to make my widger pulse.

monkeyfacegrace

Your not alone with the oral sex thing; I find it all a bit ho hum, just doesn't seem to get me going anywhere.