DP has only ever shown me much affection if he thought he'd get sex out of it. In bed he will cuddle and touch but as soon as I say I don't want sex, he will turn over and go to sleep.
He never hugs me, never kisses me, if I hug him he'll hug me back but then tries to push me away saying he's too hot/busy etc. If I go to kiss him he'll "allow" it but will make excuses not to carry on unless he think he'll get sex out of it.
We ran out of condoms about a week ago and he's not come anywhere near me since. No hugs, no kisses - nothing.
I have tried speaking to him and telling him how it feels but it goes in one ear and out the other.
Another thing is that he's started to not want to spend any time with me. He comes in from work, busies himself in the kitchen, after tea he'll put the laptop on and sit there with it for hours, not working, just looking up sport headlines etc or window shopping for boy toys. After the kids went to bed we used to cuddle up on the sofa an watch TV but for the past few weeks, he's not even wanted to do that.
AIBU in wanting a bit of attention that doesn't involve sex??
I can't remember the last time he stroked my hair or did anything "nice" like that.