Just had a bit of a shock..nothing earth shatterring but still a bit shell shocked...

[Janos]

Got contacted out of the blue by an ex boyfriend (bit of a flake) asking for some advice about something really life changing. TBH we are not on the greatest of terms so I was reluctant to get involved. He sounded in a bit of a state so I felt sorry for him and agreed we could have a chat,

Well.

Turns out he has got a woman pregnant after knowing her for..wait a minute...a month. She's not his gf, its a fling. Not that it makes much difference I guess. Apparently tests have been done. All postive. Sorry to say I have a go which was not the best response :(

I know these things happen...I know its not my business..just really, really wish I didn't know :(

I'm really shocked by how angry and upset I am.

Why are you angry and upset?

I mean, I had a go .

Why are you so upset? Sorry but it's his life to sort out (and the baby's obviously) but presume he's no intention of not doing the right thing re maintenance, etc?

What's the backstory?

Wish I bloody knew withorwithoutyou.

Can't quite articulate it myself. To do with circumstances I suppose.

Just wish he had chosen someone else to unburden himself to.

Well, I guess the truth is there are still some feelings there on my side. I have to be honest.Otherwise I wouldn't be upset would I?

Yes, he says he will support the baby. I'm sure he would.

Also someone v close to me is going through treatment, ttc and having a very hard time emotionally and I think that has affected me a bit too.

Trying to understand why these feelings myself.

Ahh don't be so hard on yourself. It aroused feelings in you that have taken you by surprise. Look, it's his problem so go easy on yourself and don't get too involved.

Thanks Singing, I appreciate that.

Am off to a friends tomorrow who has kindly offered tea and sympathy.