DD 3days with dad/3 days with mum ? can it work for DD?

[Patfrench]

Hi, I separated from DD'father a few months ago, as we were living in the flat I have been renting for 13 years (he has been there 2 years) he eventually accepted to be the one leaving and DD stayed with me. The relationship we maintain can be described at best as tense and acrimonous as he cannot forgive the fact that I initiated the separation. He comes and visit DD very often and his objective as soon as he has bought a place is alternate contact 3 days with him 3 days with me. She is 2 1/2. Can he legally request that? Can I refuse? Any opinions as to whether that would be good/bad for her? I think she needs more stability than that personnally (alternate week-ends with him + 1 night a week for ex, not sure). Thanks!

so you got pregnant and had baby before he moved in with you?

if you have no legitimate reasons for not having that 50/50 - eg his abuse, MH issues meaning he cant care for her properly etc - then why not?

it could work eg if you close by, if you both amenable and it fits with nursery or whatever...

a set routine can be stable whatever it is .

I don't think this is what's best for the child. You'd have to communicate fully with him if you were to co-parent and there's no sign that's going to happen.

I don't think that kind of co-parenting works when a child's so young. What would happen about childcare if you were both working?

We did something similar 4nights/3nights when dds were 6 and 2. It worked out fine. But we made a very, very conscious effort to keep things civilised, and we never spoke to the dcs in a negative way about the othr parent.

tbh, it is the emotional interaction between you that is likely to cause instability rather than the practical arrangements.

Sorry, typo, I meant he had stayed 3 years in my flat :). Indeed there's not much good communication so could be tricky to make it work...