I'm just not interested!

[notinterested]

Is there anyone else who just cannot be bothered with sex. I'm sure my partner would like it more often, but it just seems like a huge drag to me and I avoid it as much as possible.

Our relationship isn't brilliant but it's ok, I don't think that anything would bring the spark back though. Actually trying for another baby probably would, but that's not going to happen.

Does it matter if you don't have a sex life?

My shy, not-before-marriage, lights-out-and-door-shut, 40+ years married mother told me that good sex is the glue that gets you through the bad patches. 'Good' being what pleases you both, even if not both at the same time.

It makes sense. Orgasms apparently release some of the same brain chemicals that are activated by anti-depressants.

Someone on another thread (I think) said that the secret to a long happy marriage is never to fall out of love with each other at the same time.

I'd love to have more sex. I'd love to have a better sex-drive. I'd love my dh to have a higher sex-drive too! But how to re-arouse it? God only knows. It does seem to help, when you do get down to 'it', to forbid yourselves certain things, like not below the waist, or no actual intercourse, or no clothes to be taken off.

He He - at the mo I have chemicals galore - DP is v.interested for some reason and his bits seem to have grown bigger - will find out why he does want to do it more and inform you all.

He used to have to take the special tablets (blue diamond ones) - but not anymore - have suppy still though and these have not been touched???

Could someone please tell me about the bits growing thing though - is it normal???

Keeping clothes on is good - makes you feel like you are doing something you should not be and touching only above waist kinda drives you crazy.

Think contact is more important than the actual act though - when I have had relationships break up in the past is not the actual sex that I miss more the skin to skin contact with someone.

Teletubby I find it hard to believe that of all the hundreds of nice things my husband and I do together, that sex is the most important, and if that goes we are doomed as a couple. I think that's incredibly shallow and puts a lot of pressure on all those women (or men) whose sex-drive has flagged!).

Wasn't there a survey out that said most married women preferred gardening to sex?!

That may be true, Lil, but you can garden with anyone. If we are behaving ourselves the only person who will be having sex with us is our DPs so if we or they don't do it the other one has to miss out. That's fine if both partners are happy but what if only one is?

I don't think anyone should force themselves but it's important we seek out that spark that started it all off. Of course it requires sensitivity and effort from both partners but it's very worth it.

I must admit I do tend to agree with most of what Teletubby says on this subject.

Lil I think it is women prefer chocolate to sex
For me anyway

Chocolate AND sex is said to be rather a good combo.

Is it really Janstar
seperately or both together
I'll take both please yum yum