What exactly is LOVE????

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I split with my XP 6 weeks ago and was sort of hoping he'd come back as we were together 11 years and have 4DC
He sent me a text saying "i loved you once but not anymore" after 2 weeks of being apart
My XP then said he didnt say that but says he isnt "in love with me" but that a part of him still loves me
I'm a bit confused because i thought the "in love" bit only lasted a short time anyway then settled down into just loving someone, am i wrong?
I thought being "in love" was when your knees go weak when they kiss you and your heart jumps when you see them or hear from them
I'm a 30 yo woman and now think i dont know what love really is????

I'm confused because those things i described dont happen to me anymore and havent for a long time but i know i love him and cant imagine myself loving anyone else, soo confused now

Any thoughts would be very welcome thanks in advance

Sorry to hear about your XP.

I think love means different things to different people. I certainly don't think the experience of love is the same for every couple. For some it's companionship, for some it's lust. The greeks had loads of different words for love (whereas we try and struggle along with the one word)

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love

Sorry for your troubles recently, OP.

I have no idea what to make of the concept of love either, I'm afraid. One of my closest friends says she knew she was in 'love' with her partner when she realised that no matter how much he wound her up sometimes, she knew she would not dream of looking elsewhere and really enjoyed doing things for him, just 'because'.

But they've been together for just 2 years, I don't know if it will change to companionship in time - to be honest, I don't know what to say.