Hubby has a tight foreskin

[lfurreaux]

Hi,Firstly apologies for TMI here!

For a while now my hsb has had tight foreskin which has resulted in a sore foreskin and on ocassion even slight tears in the foreskin after sex etc. Basically (TMI again, sorry), when his penis is erect it is not that easy to pull the foreskin right back over the head - sometimes it is just too tight and we believe he has a mild form of phimosis.

Initially went to GP and she said she thought he needed a circumcision, which we were kind of shocked by. Anyway, we went to see a urologist who recommended stretching it daily to loosen the foreskin and enable him to retract it over the head. There has been some progress and generally it is possible to pull it right back to reveal the head now, which is good, although it still seems a little tight. For example during sex if I am on top and 'in control' so to speak he feels uncomfortable in case I force the foreskin back too far. So it feels only partially successful and we both agree on that.

Has anyone else had this issue? if so, any tips? My hsb isnt anti-circumcision particularly but of course realises it is quite a drastic step. Likewise I love him and if his penis is circumcised or not isnt a deal breaker. The only real fear/worry we have is that it will change our sex lives drastically as we have heard and read all sorts of alarmist reports of reduced sensitivity/heightened sensitivity and some guys really regretting having had the procedure. All of which are a worry. So, I'd love to hear real opinions based on experience which will enable us to better make an informed choice.

Thanks for reading.

Lou

thanks Lemonysweet. Interesting. So can I ask what you think Vs before?

I understand the week after is a pain but whatcha reckon after that? Love ur post x

I am going to get foamed for this but... Here goes

I find this thread a bit "odd" and a bit like a journo doing research or somebody giggling about the word "willy".

Surely if a medical team have suggested something on medical grounds then you do it. Your husband is in pain. Something needs to be done re that pain.

Why more questions about stretching procedures or wanting more info on sensitivity during sex?

BigBadMummy, my hsb has had an ongoing problem and has been recommended a course of action - stretching. He is not in pain, but has experienced periodic discomfort. He is keen to avoid an unnecessary procedure which we are both worried he could regret. Yes it concerns a willy, but its just a body part and I am certainly not sniggering about it.

I think asking about the experience of others inc. the outcomes after circumcision is entirely normal and sensible.

Sorry if it offends, but its important to us - perhaps read another thread? Sorry if I have offended anyone, but I dont think my questions are ridiculous, far from it.

Thanks

I dont get the "easier to clean" comment and certainly don't understand how it makes sex easier.
That's like saying women should have their labia removed for hygiene and easier sex! All those pesky folds and creases.
I know I wouldn't want my DH to lose his foreskin unless absolutely necessary and every other option had been exhausted.
As skin is so elastic, stretching has to be a good option, but I imagine that something permanent has to be in place for the skin to stretch over?

yes malificence I agree the clean stuff is a load of rubbish

look everyone, the penis is not complicated.

• if you wash your dong it will be clean
• if you don't wash your dong, it will be yucky.

simply as that - just like your backside, or your fanjo come to that.

bigbadmummy all circumsision threads are emotionally loaded. as we all know most circs are performed on infants for tribal / superstitional motives . They are part of humanity's rich history of child mutilation and in the modern world rationalists angry, and practitioners defensive and emotions run high.

Obviously this case is medically motivated - but my advice would still be to be very careful of circumcision apologists.... and try the stretching.

Op - you're unlikely to find any men who have been circumcised popping up on here saying don't do it.

As an uncircumcised male, I could hardly imagine anything worse than having to have my foreskin removed. It is PACKED with nerve endings and it is there for a reason. We have evolved with it for a reason - to protect the glans and provide pleasure. Without it, you will lose sensation, no doubt about it.

I think it's absolutely shocking that developed countries still practice this mutilation at birth (such as the USA) - often for no other reason than tradition and because their dads had it done and they want their kids to be the same.

It is wrong. Obviously if there is no other option for medical reasons that is a different matter, but I would try anything, for a long, long, time to avoid such a measure.

The majority of circumcised men had it done at birth, so have no comparison to make when it comes to sensation.

The more hygienic argument is completely ridiculous as others have commented. Just clean it - it takes seconds in the shower!

I still remember one of my earliest memories when I was about 4 years old, in the bath, with my mum and dad sat beside me, bribing me to stretch my foreskin back and get into the habit of doing it to wash - my reward that very first time was a climbing frame!

Keep stretching, try hydrocortisone cream. Persevere.

Totally different POV here.

I have two brothers, now 9 and 18, and both suffered tight foreskins as smaller children.

GP told them to do stretching exercises and the youngest was prescribed a hydrocortizone cream to help.

They were told that it could cause them problems when they become sexually active and may need to look into circumsision.

I know the eldest is sexually active and has no more problems but remains to be seen when the youngest becomes of age.

But the stretching has definitely helped and the cream has definitley had a positive effect. Perhaps asking the GP to prescribe it as opposed to OTC.

HTH

Oh not so "totally different POV", sorry 2010dad, I hadn't read the whole thread, only the 1st page!

I want my climbing frame.

www.glansie.com

Something like this may be worth a try?

Not the glansie!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Only read the home page, but i'd DEFINITELY buy the glansie if I were in that situation.

Stubbornhubbie - my boy is only 4 months old, but if you live local (Cheshire), we could build one??!!

My DH had this done about 10 years ago when he was in his mid twenties. He had a tight foreskin which made sex painful for him - and, consequently, not much fun for me either.

From what I can remember it was quite sore for a few days afterwards but it soon healed.

My DH never suffered any loss of sensitivity and went on to have a completely 'normal' sex life afterwards. He has certainly never regretted getting it done.

but he just MUST have suffered loss of sensitivity.

eg (at risk of TMI) pull back your foreskin, get dressed you find it's very uncomfortable down there in your pants. your pants rub.
Clearly circumcised men don't feel that. ergo it's become less sensitive, as you'd expect.

the area under the foreskin simply is more sensitive (ladies if your man is uncut, I am sure you can think of ways to test this for yourself, an experiment he may enjoy greatly :-) )

It would be interesting to know if anyone knows anybody who regrets being circumcised as an adult. All the responses so far indicate that men who have been through it have not regretted at all and my DH certainly hasn't.

That's an impossible question really because all the men who have it done, do it for pain relief from tight foreskins and so sex is never as pleasurable as it should be for them.
Pain free sex is always going to be more enjoyable than the alternative, so the lack of sensitivity is probably the trade off plus they can have more stimulating sex rather than being careful all the time so I can see why men don't regret having it done.
If things can be improved by not so drastic means though, surely surgery should be the very last resort?

I suppose it depends on how long someone is prepared to give it, how much pain they are actually in and how much it is impacting on their sex life and that is for the OP and her DH to decide.

thanks all, will keep you posted x

My hubby had this problem and regularly had a slight cut in the area after sex and was always worried that it was going to tear and on a few occasions it did bleed. He had the frenulum snipped last year and sewn back in a different area. He was originally told he would have to have a circumcision but the surgeon said he would do this instead. It was tender for quite a few weeks afterwards and he thought that it hadn't worked for a while as it didn't really feel any different. 12 months on there is no problem there.

For children, there is no requirement for the foreskin to be pulled back.
www.drmomma.org/2010/01/phony-phimo...

For teens and adults a tight foreksin can be caused by damage to the inside structure of the penis due to masturbation. See this blog
UK tight foreskin and bigger penis guide
uktightforeskin.blogspot.co.uk/

So, TLCTugger, what prompted you to search for a thread that is SEVEN YEARS OLD in order to promote your products?

ZOMBIE THREAD

since MN don't provide a warning once the thread has been reopened.

Hey. Just wanted to say that as a man who has this done in his late twenties I can't recommend this enough if you're having problems. A tight foreskin is incredibly painful during sex and can lead to infection and other problems. It was a simple op, out same day and then a week or two recovery. Things were a bit less sensitive for a while but the relief was immense (no pain) and it meant you lasted longer . Seriously, in my opinion, it should never be compared to chopping away at the clitorous. One sounds like mutilation, this op was simple but effective

Circumcision on a healthy baby boy is barbaric, it should only be used as a medical treatment for a condition like your husband has. Definitely don't conflate the two things. Less sensitivity is surely better than pain!

Oh zombie. Tlc tugger. Ewww