Ex partner/new partner punchup

[ineedamiracle]

This is the first time I've used this website, but really haven't got anywhere else to turn. I found myself being a single Mum after my husband abandoned myself and our son for one of my friends. Six months ago, I met a nice man who promised me the world - he was widdowed and also had a son and things looked promising. The problem is, my new partner thinks that my six year old is being influenced by his father to behave badly. He says kicking under the table and not listening are not just part of being a small child, that his father must be behind these behaviours. My partner is now threatening to have it out with my ex-husband and currently isn't speaking to me because I naturally stick up for my beautiful boy. Help.

you]'re letting your boy down more by continuing the relationship

he is clearly controlling, and selfish and wants to be top dog and be your priority.

the best thing you can do for your child is to show that you can manage without a man rather than letting a controlling and immature selfish prat tell you both how to live

your child has a father figure , his father ! he does not need this one in his life too

it's all been very quick from the breakup to this. have some time alone

Meant to add, this guy isnt your partner, the opening of post, sulking at you, wanting joint accounts within a month, these are all classic signs of a bully.

Womans aid are very supportive if you need someone to talk to in real life.

Quite apart from everything else, do you want to be with someone who threatens violence to solve problems? I mean, even if he was right that your son was being encouraged in bad behaviour by his own father (which isn't true), it is beyond inappropriate to deal with that by beating up the father. I mean, really. You're talking about trying to persuade him that your son's just a normal little boy, but that's really, really missing the point.

Get out now!