internet 'date' next week, should I go??

[umma]

Ok have given internet dating a go and have arranged a meet up with a guy. Thing is I'm just not sure....I really don't know why but I have the feeling he is not that keen, even though we have equally arranged the date! IYKWIM He just seems really cool about it all.

I don't know, should I go out of curiosity or just cancel?? Help!

Do you think? Arghhh!! Yes should be safe, my town, meeting for a (nonalcoholic) drink.

To be honest I think he changed when he realised I had a child, but still wants to meet?? But why :-(

ask him. There's no point meeting if it'll go nowhere.

Can you not chat a bit more between now and the date?

If you honestly think he has an issue with the fact that you have a child then I think you have to dig a little bit more. I wouldn't feel comfortable until I knew more.

hmmm maybe that is it...

I do try and talk to him, he sends me text messages (every now and again) but just about his day, what he's been up to....

I even put it to him that he didn't seem that interested and he said "what would I have to do/say to show I was?"

He did ask me last night if I would ever have any more children, I said yes, never say never. I asked him if he wanted a family, he said yes definitely, very important to him.

But shouldn't we be talking more...pre date and all that?? I really don't know??

Send him a message giving him an out without any come back if he would rather not. I would rather do that than spend an evening with someone who would rather be elsewhere.

He knew about my son before we arranged date, his suggestion as well.

Also whenever I go on the website to quickly check my messages he ALWAYS seems to be on there....just makes me think hmmmmm

Am I talking myself out of it LOL

shit what to do?

Ok,thanks everyone and thanks Lizard, you'd go?

I just don't know the 'rules' to internet dating if there are any? You know I thought if we had agreed to meet up he would me texting me much, much more, getting to know me but then again perhaps he wants to wait to do that in person??

Thing is I don't want to waste my time or play games, can't be bothered with that. Just want someone to like me and me like them!

Simple!???

Can you call him instead of texting?

I must admit I also hate it when people appear to be on-line continuously. I know its slightly out of order as until you've actually met and decided whether it's worth taking things further he can do as he pleases/is a free Agent but....I know how you feel.

Anyway, I would definitely find out a bit more ie do you really know much more about him? What about his previous relationships, friends, work?

FiaGrace, yes that's how I feel, I know he doesn't owe me anything and he can do what he likes, and to be fair I'm on there too...but he seems to be on there loads!

I know what he does for a living, bit about his family, his interests...not sure about ringing him, got a feeling he wouldn't be very happy with that...that is a bad sign isn't it?

I think is always better to chat on the phone first.
You may/may not like him after that initial chat ....

I'd just go. What have you got to loose? You sound curious. better to go and find out if there is a connection than spend the rest of your life worrying.

Ok maybe I should just go...like what you said poshsinglemum.

I worry about most things, never used to be like this!