odd sex question

[oddone]

I know it's not Friday night, but something is bothering me.

Been married to DH for years and years. Our sex life is okay but not great- I am inhibited with him for various reasons, mainly because there is a bit of negativity in my head over our relationship.

However,in all our years together he has never- and this is the question, actually touched me inside- put his finger(s) in me. Judging by all the foreplay I had with other men this is quite "normal" foreplay and I wonder why my DH has never done it.
Equally, you might be thinking well why don't I ask. True. I suppose the fact that he never has- when I used to have to fight boys off in my teens for trying!- makes me think he just doesn't want to.

I suppose I should tell him that's what I'd like, but I wonder if he is squeamish over it or something.

The same applies a bit to oral sex- he hardly ever does ( give) and says he thinks I don't like it- I do, but he turns it round saying he thinks I don't want it.

you need to watch something saucy together and comment on how you might like some of that.

some men do find these things a bit difficult. took me 7 years to convince DH that oral sex was really good and he should give me some. i gave him videos and books on how to do it.

Isn't that a normal part of foreplay? If he doesn't finger you, what do you do get properly worked up?
It's standard, from my experience. Can't you just move his hand when you start to pet each other, so that he touches you around your groin and then move it inwards?

Or ask him to try it as something new, perhaps.

Do you mean he doesn't do that finger jabbing up your fanjo that is perculiar to teenage boys Perhaps he knows your clitoris is best reached from the outside? Something men need to be taught ime.

If you like the jabbing - I don't, but each to their own - tell him.

If you can't both talk about what you want in bed perhaps some sex therapy would help?

That sounded a bit harsher than I meant - wasn't intentional

agree with JAMM, can't stand the finger jabbing. who tells them that that is good???

but yes you need to tell him and find out why he hasn't done it.