DP went in a massive mood --- Over toothbrushes!

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Just a vent really....

(background - me and DP live together with my 2 children and his one child. It is NOT working out and we've agreed tos plit but I need to stay here until I finish my access course in June. So now we're living together, but parenting seperately. Therefore, I'm just venting about the silly, petty, immature behaviour of DP!)

Yesterday we did the weekly shopping and I remembered that me and my children needed new toothbrushes. I saw some good colgate ones on offer for £1 each so I picked up 3. DP saw me and asked how much they were. I said £1 each. He did his usual "staring at said object" for a good few minutes whilst I made my way to the checkouts. As the toothbrushes are going through, he said "how much did you say they were again??" so I repeated £1 each". He then said "oh, DD needs a new toothbrush." I said "go and get her one then". He ignored me.

So after checkout, I'm going through my receipt and notice they'd charged me £2.30 for each brush. Cut long story short, I questioned it and got a full refund. The offer had ran out but they'd forgot to remove the sticker from the shelf. After my refund, they then went and removed it.

DP then said "so, how much are they??" I said £2.30 each". He said "how much did you pay???" I said £1 each. So ... this is the best bit he said "that is so unfair!" (yes, he was being serious). I said "what is?" and he said "I wanted to buy some! does it still say £1 on the shelf?" so I said "no, the offer has ran out and they've taken it off now" so he replied "oh great! thanks a lot".

Ok so to cut out the silly details, he went into a massive mood because I'd bought some toothbrushes and he hadn't. He then blamed me for the toothbrushes being full price saying if I hadn't have brought it up, he could've got some too.

I'm not asking for advice, I know he's being ridiculous, I just wanted to recap the story as I think its hilarious I can find it all funny now that I know I'll be leaving the mad house soon. Has anyone else ever known a man this petty?

ATM speaks a lot of sense.

I lived with the ex after we split up, for over 12 months, because "We couldnt afford to move".

Of course that was cr@p as we were both too lazy.

He sounds a similar man to my ex, and in our situation things descended into a lot of nastiness.

By the end he had disconnected his dishwasher so I couldnt use it (but continued to use my washing machine). Passcoded the telephone, again, so I couldnt use it.

So, if I were you, I would find a way now, to get out, money will be tight, but I bet it will be worse if you stay as he will find many ways to get more money from you.

All Unis and colleges have emergency funds to help students in times of need, go and ask them now, explain how it will affect your studies (and I bet anything it will - he will do his best, as he wont want you doing better for yourself)

I teach in a college which provides Access courses - I thought most of the students were on Jobseekers' Allowance - the course is usually geared to this in that the hours are within the amount allowed. Check it out - I can't imagine you will be in a worse position as far as education is concerned. Certainly our college tends to have 16-19 year olds and single parents who are on JSA.

Surely an Access course counts as year zero of many degrees and you'd be entitled to student finance? PLus housing and council tax benefit if you move out.
I really don't think that you can claim JSA as a full time mature student because you wouldn't be seeking work. You may get Income support and again HB, CTB and tax credits. If you don't get HE Student Finance there are parent/adult learning allowances that are aimed at single parents.
My info isn't 100% up to date but I did an Access course pre-children and am now about to do my third year of a degree as a single parent, in between I worked in an FE/HE college and so I've dealt with this loads of times for myself and others. Seriously check it out, I don't see how staying there would affect your ability to finish the course.