WDYD to show your anger/annoyance?

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I was going to post on AIBU but no, I'm not, he's being a twunt and it's one of the arguments we have over and over again. I am fuming, I know I have done nothing wrong yet he twists things to try to make me feel I have.

He NEVER apologises but I don't want to give in on this one as I am fuming. So what do I do? What do you do? Prolonged not speaking? Sulking? Waiting until your temper has gone and try to speak to him rationally? What if he still doesn't apologise and you are convinced he should?

At the moment I am inclined to pretend he doesn't exist for a good month.

OMG, what are you doing with my OH?

Have no idea what to suggest, clearly, cos have the same bloody issues, but will offer you my deepest sympathy, tell you that you are not alone and mark my place for any foolproof ideas!!

DH is exactly like this.

very occasionally we'll row about something, he'll sulk, fail to apologise etc and then months later he'll say something to the effect that he now knows I was right.

so my coping mechanism generally is to basically assume he knows I'm right but is too proud to apologise.

but this fails sometimes and i get very worked up.

I guess the best tactic is to tell him calmly in very simple terms why you think he's wrong. wait briefly for a response (and count to 10 if the response annoys you), then go out for a walk.

but don't rely on an apology. you probably won't get one.

don't do the not speaking thing - it makes it worse imo. just do some things you like but which you know piss him off. that's what I do anyway.

I have come on to this section to look for similar advice. So can't help. I ignore him and he says nothing or even tries to address the issues. And in the end I give in and act normally for the sake of the kids.

I emailed him 4 days ago of why I was upset and cross. And nothing.

I give up

I would love to find a way to get him to understand how angry I am with him (that doesn't involve a knife) but he just doesn't seem to click

Whatever the issue, he thinks you are unreasonable to be angry about it. It's something he wants to continue doing, more than he wants you not to be angry.
Because I have no idea what the issue is that annoys you, I have no idea whether or not you are being unreasonable. But being angry clearly isn't working here, so it's time to think of a new strategy.

I hate the silent treatment, I don't tolerate it when it's being done to me nor do I freeze out others

I give him a good hard whack over the head with a frying pan, he usually apologises on impact

I don't have any anger. Yes there is probably something wrong with me. If I feel that DHs behaviour is wrong I just tell him.

I hate the silent treatment it's the shittiest of the shit. If you are angry with him tell him, spell it out in simple words if he doesn't get it. If he refuses to listen or take into account your views, then he is a selfish git.

If he tries to twist things, stick to your guns, realise that your view of reality is just as valid as his and refuse to back down.