My DP is driving me a bit nuts at the moment, he is really uptight and parinoid especially when it comes to our children.
I will give you 2 examples.
- My 2 sisters and i are thinking of taking our children (7 in total) camping, just for the weekend, we have all been camping pre children and though a weekend away would be nice.
DP wouldnt be coming he doesnt like camping, he doesnt want us to go his reasoning is he is worried about the kids getting lost, or someone taking them from the tent in thie night and if i will cope with them.
I have explained that hundreds of people take thier children camping every year and that there will be 3 grown women there to look after the DCs and i look after them all day everyday so i will cope fine.
- My freind has invited us to stay at hers next year, again DP doesnt like being a gues at peoples houses so it will be just me and the kids, it would require a very short plain ride to Scotland, DP again is panicking about how i will cope with the children and if they will get lost ect.
He is like this about everything, he freaks out in crowded places and really doesnt like the children doing anything, he says he is being snsible in 'this day and age' and that he trusts nobody.
I personally think he has ocd tendencies as well with safety issues like repeated checking of the cooker, doors and windows ect so i dont know if that has anything to do with it.
Anyway it is a big rift in our relationship becuase i feel that the children should to an extent beable to live and experience new things and that i am very capable of keeping them safe, i look after them from 8-6 every days and they are both still alive!
How can i help him to relax a little im really worried that the amount of tension he radiates will end up causing him a nerbous breakdown or heart attack or something!