Has my husband been unfaithful?

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Really don't know what to think.

DH and I have been married for 15 years (we are both in our 40's and have two children)

Never had any reason to suspect him but about a week ago he developed a sore eye which we thought was conjunctivitis.

It hadn't improved with over the counter drops so he saw his GP last week who referrred him for an eye clinic appointment which he had yesterday.

They have tested him for Chlymydia and results should be through in next day or so.

According to DH, this could have been picked up when he took our son swimming a few weeks ago but can this be true?

I have zero medical knowledge but had a quick search online and this can only be transmitted through sexual activity.

I have never been unfaithful to my husband so he hasn't caught it from me. I am so confused.

i know that I need to discuss this with him but just need time to gather myself first.

Does anyone have experience of Chlamydia? Can it only be transmitted through sexual activity

I suspect English isn't liketolearn's first language, perhaps they meant something far more tactful (benefit of the doubt).

Of course you can't catch chlamydia from a swimming pool, otherwise we'd all have it.
OP's DH might just be panicking, if he's not been unfaithful, and scrabbling around for a possible explanation. The same could apply if he has been unfaithful, so I'm not sure how helpful I'm being

OP - definately need to wait for results before you jump to any conclusions.

Liketolearn - that was quite strange

On a personal note... My darling Ex-Husband oh so beautifully gave me chlamydia..... some say it with flowers, some say it with poetry but guys if you really want that special someone to know you care to the sum of zero - say it with an STI

I was naive enough to let him talk me into thinking I gave it to him! One year on, after being caught cheating AGAIN (there were a few) he admitted not only that he had the STI but knowingly gave it to me and just hoped I'd get tested before it became an issue! Excuse me sir and allow me to direct your compulsive lying, cheating, chlamydia sharing ass to the door

Seriously though, wait for the results

Up - do you have a cat? Lots of them have ocular chlamydia. Ours did. 42 days of bloody antibiotic tablets hidden in his Felix

The other thing is (and this is a bit yuk) but cats who get ocular chlamydia get it from their mums coming down the birth canal. If he's had persistent eye problems maybe he has - ahem - always had it?

Hi Longtalljosie, we don't have cats
Still waiting for results!

Simply agreeing to a chlamydia test does not mean he has been unfaithful. When I had a Mirena fitted they offered me a chlamydia test as a matter of course, which I accepted even though I had not been unfaithful to my dh, nor had I any suspicion that he had been unfaithful to me.

I just figured, it didn't hurt to have the test. I 100% expected it would be negative, which it was. But if it had not been, then I would have known there was something fishy going on.

Err no I think Longtalljoisie is subtly saying that if your DH has always had eye probs then maybe he should be looking at his mother....

maybe he just got a bit confused by all the stuff the doctor was saying eg he might have got a virus at the swimming pool, other thing could be chlamydia, blah blah. so the two are not connected but he thinks they are?

Babies can catch Chlamydial conjunctivitis when being born or according to some studies, in utero. Babies can then go on to develop Chlamydial pneumonia at about 6 weeks.

Quite horrific.

It's unlikely for anyone to have chlamydial conjunctivitis for any length of time before knowing about it.

It's aggressive and literally erodes the eyeball if not treated immediately.

Chlamydia isn't an infection of the whole body, it effects mucous membranes individually (genitals -can cause infertility in women, lung, eye) according to whichever of these was exposed to the bacteria.

Up, you probably didn't need to know all or any of this or may have known it already but it's an infection that can have awful ramifications and does need to be taken seriously.

It sounds like a standard set of tests been done.
Not positive about this but I believe someone can have chlamydia for years and years and never know as it is symptonless particularly in men. Even if he has it, could be possible he got it before you two got together?

BlueFergie's right. It's also possible the clinic downplayed the significance of the chlamydia test because they didn't want your DP to refuse to have it.

I don't mean they lied - but they may not have spelled out to him "of course if this comes up positive it will mean you've probably been unfaithful to your wife".

It's just a test. We could all have one. It doesn't mean anything. It's one of the possible causes of a sore eye and the clinicians - who don't know your DP - just want to rule it out. That is all. Don't torture yourself.

I know you can have symptomless chlamydia for years, but 15 - really??

Anyway. as others have said, this is just a test and I bet it's negative.

I'm probably wrong as the GP hasn't mentioned it, but DH had viral (i.e. red & very sore but no gunky stuff) conjuntivitis last year. It went on for about a month and was incredibly bad- he worked from home for most of that month as he couldn't drive but actually had to call in sick a couple of days as he developed the flu symptoms.
Any chance it's something like this? Viral doesn't respond to drops either.

I once spent a long day in A&E with my DP, who had developed a huge blister on his eyeball. The doc kept asking him if he had had unprotected sex - when he said no, she looked really dubious! I was starting to get quite alarmed, but another doctor explained that as some STDs such as chlamydia and herpes can cause eye symptoms, they have to rule it out if there is no other obvious cause.

It actually turned out that he had a huge insect wing embedded in his eye (flown in while he was cycling fast). It had to be pulled out with huge tweezers .

I'm sure they are just being thorough.

any update OP? Hope everything is OK

Does he wear contact lenses? "profuse apologies for it being DM www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1305521/A-parasite-contact-lens-gnawing-eyeball-The-gruesome-truth-scarily-common-bug.html" but I refuse to pay to read The Times online

and one day I will finally master links :(

I was going to say the same as sanfairyann, I reckon he was probably told he could have picked up the eye infection itself at the swimming pool as opposed to chlamydia. If he misunderstood then that would explain why he accepted the test, not because he's thinking 'hmm, yes I actually might have chlamydia, I have been putting it about a bit' but because he thought he may have got chlamydia from the pool!

Either way, it doesn't sound likely he'll have it, and it can't harm to have something else to rule out.

Disco, you put the whole lot, the URL and text inside, ie: [ [ url.com your text ] ]

(But obviously without spaces). HTH!

From Wiki en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chlamydial_infection

Eye disease
Main article: Trachoma

Conjunctivitis due to chlamydia.Chlamydia conjunctivitis or trachoma was once the most important cause of blindness worldwide, but its role diminished from 15% of blindness cases by trachoma in 1995 to 3.6% in 2002.[3][4] The infection can be spread from eye to eye by fingers, shared towels or cloths, coughing and sneezing and eye-seeking flies.[8] Newborns can also develop chlamydia eye infection through childbirth (see below). Using the SAFE strategy (acronym for surgery for in-growing or in-turned lashes, antibiotics, facial cleanliness, and environmental improvements), the World Health Organisation aims for the global elimination of trachoma by 2020 (GET 2020 initiative).[9][10]

FruitbatAuntie Oh my god!