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ChynaDoll2006 · 17/08/2010 22:36

Why is life so fucking hard?

Got raped 3 and a half years ago, on two occasions, and was seriously messed up in the head. Had PTSD and basically was not functioning on a normal level at all.

A month after the second incident I got with my ex bf. We were together until about 2 months ago. I met another man and although did not cheat, I had strong feelings for him (purely physical). I didn't want to cheat on my bf so I told him about it and we sorted it out. But since then I have not felt happy at all. And our relationship was very up and down and dramatic. So I ended the relationship.

Since doing that it seems the last 3 years have never happened. All the healing I've done with my ex has gone, it feels like. I feel like all my friends don't want to spend time with me any more as I am too depressed.

My ex wants to get back with me and is constantly saying how much he loves me etc. We loved each other very much and in a way I want to get back with him but I do not want the anger, shouting and violence (me to him).

I have met another man who I love spending time with and we have had sex but I get the feeling he is bad news. But right now I don't even care, as I don't really care what happens to me.

I feel like I have no one, am worth nothing. I appreciate I probably sound sorry for myself but I just want to be honest with my feelings.

Sorry for the long post.
Any advice?

OP posts:
Aminata100 · 17/08/2010 23:40

Did you ever have counselling after the rapes?
I would go to your GP and get some counselling, it worries me that you state you are worth nothing and don't care what happens to you! Don't let this "bad news" man bring you into a further downward spiral.

Of course you are worth it!! Please find a good counsellor, the violence also shows you are angry, better to explore the reasons in a safe environment with a counsellor than ending up in a relationship where domestic violence becomes the norm (and you could end up a victim too).

Wishing you all the best!

msboogie · 17/08/2010 23:44

It sounds like you are on a a self destruct downward spiral.

lease speak to your GP as soon as you can or ring a rape crisis helpline.

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