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The beast is back

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SilaNaGeige · 16/08/2010 11:45

I have depression.

NM is absolutely supportive (despite me advising him to walk away BlushSad).

Hit a crisis point last night, seeing GP tomorrow (earliest available apt).

I will take AD's if offered (I've avoided them before), alongside counselling which I will find a way to pay for to negate NHS waiting list issues, if need be.

I have read some of what you here have gone through when with a partner with depression. I've been with a depressed partner before, I know how difficult and unrewarding it can feel.

I love my DC and NM (we were friends long before we got together). How do I get through this without hurting or damaging them all?

I should have awareness of this but can't currently see the bog for the shite.

I would really appreciate some guidance, please.

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SilaNaGeige · 16/08/2010 14:24

...anyone?

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cestlavielife · 16/08/2010 14:39

give your NM a break sometimes eg take yourself off to other supportive friends and family for short or long times.

take meds if needed and therapy.

dont blame anyone for your illness. least of all yourself.

kayah · 16/08/2010 14:42

talk aboout you feeling down
I felt cut off when my ex was not saying a word to me for weeks on end being depressed and unhappy
partly due to that we split in the end as I wasn't able to find a way to communicate with him

celticfairy101 · 16/08/2010 15:16

I would also keep channels of communication open with NM. It's important that you show him you trust him enough to support you in this. So in future avoid the classic 'walk away'. You can recognise the signs and are seeking help, so you are able to use your own coping strategies and are demonstrating that your not going to 'be a burden', which is probably the signals you fear you're sending out.

Hope all goes well at the GP. You are doing all the right things.

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SilaNaGeige · 16/08/2010 15:36

"It's important that you show him you trust him enough to support you in this."

Thank you. I had overlooked that pertinent point. It's tempting to go inwards rather than share and yes, I fear being a burden but now realise I'm being proactive under the circs.

So far:
Professional help (meds/therapy)
Trust
Communication
Space
Involving supportive others

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