Dh has always had a bit of a Victor Meldrew persona but over the last few years he has became unbearable. Children, financial pressures and the pressure of an awful commute have made him unbearable.
To outsiders he comes across as a deeply unpleasant man, he is rude, argumentative and sniping. I am ashamed of him because it has got to the point where I worry that his behaviour reflects on me. Can he ever change? I have told him that he must change because I won't put up with it forever. I think he actually enjoys being disliked by people.
I think back to the person dh was before we had children and it seems impossible that I am with the same person. Is it easy for people to be loveable when life is going smoothly? Do we not reveal our true colours until we are under pressure?