my Dh and I have been together for 20 years and have 3 primary school aged children together.
I am the main breadwinner but this is due to working nights (up to 6 a week). It means that I am around during the day for the children which is when my DH works.
The downside is that I am always very tired and that my sex drive is non existant.
Every once in a while, my DH gets cross due to the lack of bedroom activity and we end up arguing.
Last night was one of those occasions and although I totally understand where he is coming from, I need to sleep on my nights off work especially since the children are on holiday and i can't sleep during the day.
He said that he can't live like this anymore and wants to leave. When i asked him hy he wanted to leave he said "because I hate you so much". now i know it was said in temper and he has since apologised for saying it (he says he only said it to get a reaction) and when he said it i replied "great, you storm out in a huff, crash the car and kill yourself and that's the last thing you've said to me. Nice".
At that point i went upstairs crying.
He came up and apologised.
Everytime i look at him, i can hear those words in my head.... how do i get passed that?
I truly think that children should have both parents bringing them up which is why I am still here