Petty stuff, is it worth calling a day on the relationship?

[LonelyHeartClub]

I have been seeing someone for about 6 months. For the first couple of months we didn't visit each other's houses, we just went out for dates and spent a night in a hotel room Then around 3 months later he invited me around to his house for a meal. His house was very "blokeish" but not dirty etc, just a definate lack of feminine touch. So a few weeks later I invited him around to mine. It went really well, he was respectful, funny, did the washing up (!!) etc but I noticed that in the bathroom he'd literally ripped a massive chunk out of the side of the toilet roll so it had a massive hole in it. I assumed he'd just got annoyed with it, replaced it and by the end of the night, the one roll had ended up the same. I asked him about it and he said he hadn't done it but there was nobody else in the house!

I let it go but after that everytime he came down the same thing happened. Last weekend he came down, I specifically asked him not to rip the toilet roll as I hated the ammount of waste it created and he still swears it wasn't him. Needless to say by the end of the weekend the toilet roll had a chunk ripped out of it but not only that, a full loaf of bread that was in the cupboard had a massive chunk BITTED out of the side of it. He denies that too.

This is LITERALLY the only problem I have with him. In other ways he's funny, respectful, polite, generous and I hate to end it because of a few wierd habbits. But is it really that petty or wierd enough to end it over??

It sounds very odd to me.

Strange behaviour to do that to a toilet roll and a loaf of bread.

Disturbing behaviour to lie about it.

Personally I don't think you are being petty because these little things are signs of how someone's mind works, and that's what you are on the lookout for.

If your instincts are telling you something is wrong, I'd listen to them.

Do you know much about previous relationships? Why they ended?

To me it's the same kind of thing as noticing a guy being rude to a waitress on a first date, even if he's lovely to you. It's a red flag and your instincts are shouting for a reason.

If you really really like him, perhaps lay your cards on the table and talk to him about how it makes you feel?

You fule. You have MICE.

OK forget the fact that he's funny, polite, respectful, generous. Most people are, or appear to be, all those things.

The chunks out of loo roll and bread are most odd and the denial that it's him even weirder!

I think you need to trust your instincts and find out more about him.

Yeah, you have meeces eatign your loo roll...

actually the loo roll I could overlook but the bread thing is a bit odd.

What Wordweaver said. Something in your gut is telling you things are not all there.

And the lying about it.

And still doing it after you asked him to stop.

I'd dump.

One way or another there is at least one person out there with a seriously weird sense of humour. Either the OP, or the OP's guy, if this is by any remote possibility actually true. He would say to his mates "it was so funny, every time I go there I rip up her loo roll and swear it wasn't me, she doesn't know whether to believe me or not, ahahaha!" Or alternatively "it was so funny, I went on Mumsnet and pretended to be a girl whose boyfriend tore my loo roll and lied about it, and some of them told me it was peculiar behaviour!"

There probably is a planet on the far edge of the universe where this sort of thing really is regarded as amusing. I just worry whether these people hold down responsible jobs.