Is it something i have done?

[isitcosofme]

I have changed name for this, if you have an idea of who i am please don't out me.

Last night in bed, i wanted a kiss from DH so i started to kiss him passionately. I thought it was what he wanted because when we downstairs, he was looking at me sexually if you known what i mean? and also making innuendos, to me it was as if he 'wanted me'. Couldn't wait to get to bed actually as we haven't done it for over 2 months . (i don't have a huge sex drive whereas he does)

As we was kissing i slipped my hand down the covers to grab a feel (as you do) grin

He wasn't aroused at all, the kissing was as if he felt he had no choice and he just didn't seem 'into it' if you know what i mean?

It has upset me because its left me wondering, is it me, is something I've done.

Iv put on 3lb in the last 2 weeks, I'm only small but weigh 8st 9lb (now) and its getting at me, i want loose some weight but don't have the motivation.

I just feel confused. What would you do?

So if he has a high sex drive and you haven't done it in two months, then he isn't into it when you do initiate it, I'd say you need to talk. Is everything else ok?

I'm sure it's absolutely nothing to do with an extra pound or two of weight though, I'd stop worrying about that.

perhaps he was tired or something -why didn't you just ask?

Maybe you missed your window and he had had a shower? Might just be bad timing?

hhmmmnnn

Hmmm, the thing is not all men are hard to order, they sometimes need work.

Women do make the mistake of thinking men should be and will be hard and up for it all the time when sex is on offer.

Although true most of the time, it's not all of the time. Maybe he was tired, felt a bit put out that it was the first time in months and you initiating it, many reasons really.

You need to talk abour it really.

Agree with emmyloulou. Sometimes a bit of "warming up" can be required, especially if tired, ill, thinking about problems at work, etc. Don't forget many cases of full-blown male impotence have psychological causes, so we do need to be at least a little bit mentally engaged as well.

You say he has a high sex drive, though. Presumably then he masturbates frequently when you're not having sex? Could it simply be that he sorted himself out a bit earlier? I don't know how old he is but once you hit a certain age it's going to take a lot more than a quick grope to get things going again if he'd enjoyed some wrist action a short time before.

Have a chat about it but be gentle - he might be feeling really bad that he couldn't perform when you wanted him to.

So what happened after you copped a feel?

Did you get it on? Of course sometimes/some men will be ready for action at a moments notice but more work is sometimes required!