Are they friends?

[mumtobe23]

After having my DD last year i got quite lonely as i have very few friends let alone friends with babies.
So i went online and made friends with a group of ladies with babies all very similar in ages.
Great, we all got on well and had lovely days out together whilst we were all on Mat leave.
Now most of us are back at work its difficult meeting up, however recently some of the ladies have mentioned (i think without thinking) several things that they have been up to on day's out that i've not been invited too as well as other little things such as group texts that were sent (but not to me) and they all "went in" on a birthday present for another friend, i wasn't asked. Yet they are all very friendly and lovely to me when we are all out together.
Dont get me wrong, of course they dont have to invite me they can do as they want, Im quite a shy, emotional person and dont like to upset people so it made me feel a little left out and sad.
I've not fallen out with any of them, i haven't upset any of them & i thought we're all very friendly and open women.
Am i just being silly or should i get the hint and try and make a new group of "mum" friends

It could be that they're just forgetting to include you for some reason, or it could be that they're making a rather more deliberate (and childish, tbh) attempt at segregating you from the group. Only they know truly what is happening, what matters is how you feel about it and what you do. Have you tried taking charge and arranging a meet-up, or sending out a group text even just as a "hello!"...? The reason I ask is that I am also pretty shy and nervous, especially socially. I can blabber for ages online but in ye olde Real Life I find it much harder to make my voice heard or feel 100% confident even with friends I've known for a long time.

If you have tried to arrange things, or if it becomes clear that this group of women just aren't interested in keeping you amongst their clique just try to dust yourself off and move forward. You'll find other "mum friends" who won't behave so much like their kids in future.

Thanks CatPower.
I did send out a few message for meet-ups at the beginning but only one or two replied, at the time i just thought fair enough people are busy.
It could be like you say they may forget to invite me, i really hope they're not intentionally doing it.
I think i'll start to arrange things with other mums at playgroup i go to once a week. its hard as im shy but i dont want my DD to grow up without having any babies of similar ages to play with.
i just dont understand whats going on but im of the opinion if they dont want me around, i'm not gonna be around.

I'm also the shy quiet type and I think sometimes we just get overlooked. Or they take you're qauietness to mean that you're not that interested in them. Also it can be difficult to "let people in" and allow them to get to know the real you- perhaps they just don't feel like they've bonded with you as much as with others in the group.
It sounds to me like you have self esteem issues (as do I!)- why wouldn't people want you around if you've done nothing wrong?

Sounds like what I went through - meeting a group of mums at AN and PN classes and started off doing lots together. Over time it became clear that some of us got on better and the group fragmented a bit, with cliches forming, none of which I fitted. I found it hard at the time but recognised that I have friends of different depths and they give me different things. I decided not to fret about being in the in crowd and instead just see the other mums with and without their kids now and again, individually and in a group (book club). Keep getting out and about and focus on linking up with people from all walks who offer something to both you and your daughter - the pre-school and primary school years are great for meeting with people in the community but not all of those you meet early on(none of the original AN/PN group in my case!) are going to be best buddies.