My little world has fallen apart in the past 6 months and I'm looking for some helpful impartial advice to help me deal with it...any comments are much appreciated! :)
I met my partner nearly 4 years ago and at first he seemed like the perfect guy..attentive, attractive, funny, generous, etc, etc, etc. We were absolutely smitten and within 9 months I became pregnant, which was exactly planned but nevertheless welcome..we were both delighted!
The problems started when we moved in together..when I was around 4 months pregnant. EVERY time he went on a night out he would stay out all night..not returning until 10/11am the next day..he even missed a few Sunday morning antenatal appts because he was AWOL. Sneaky checks on his phone (wrong..I know..but sometimes neccesary!) always showed suspicious texts and phonecalls from OW.
We were delighted when our wonderful DD was born and things were great for a while but his single man behaviour (staying out all night) still resurfaced every time he had a night out! Apart from these occasional 'hiccups' our relationship was fine...nothing spectacular but we were getting along fine.
Or so I thought..at the start of January this year after yet another AWOL incident he told me the next day (by text when he was at work!) that he was leaving...that he didn't love me anymore and that he couldn't give me what I wanted (I've never made a secret of the fact that I would love 2 kids).
After dicussing it when he came home he said he had said those things in anger (for what I don't know 
we decided to have a trial separtaion (suggested by him), he would get a 6 month lease on a flat a we would try to work things out.
I'm rambling so will try to cut it short...
Basically over the past 6 months we've really tried and things seemed to be getting better, we were communicating more, enjoying eachother's company more and all round appreciating eachother. There has been another text situation tho, one Sunday he popped round to the shops and had left his phone (highly unusual, it's usually stuck to him!). He got a message so I had a look and it was from a woman..saying 'no, I'll be home for that', the previous one read ' can her mother not do it..'. I asked him about it when he got home and he said it was a work colleague he had arranged to pick up from a night out on his way back to his flat(!). She wanted him to pick her up early but he said he was with DD. First, why would he offer to pick a drunken woman up?, second, who did she think she was asking him to leave his time with DD to get her? and third, he had been with us all weekend why hadn't he mentioned it? Anyway, he wormed his way out of it with excuses..
Fast forward to today. We had agreed that he would come back and give up his flat as long as we contiuned to work at our relationship. He was out again last night..I woke up this morning to and empty space beside be. He finaly returned at 9am (!). He went straight up to bed. While DD and I were getting dressed I was brushing my teeth when DD toddles in with his phone..she mustve been rummaging in his pockets(have her trained..joke!). So I had a look..he had phoned this same woman at 2am this morning. Apparently by mistake when I asked him about it. I told him to get out of my bed and get out. He did..and procedeed to tell me I was a fat ugly cow and it was no wonder my previous relationship failed because I was a nutter. This was after he had grabbed the phone off me by force, pulling my dress down in the process. Now, he as never been verbally or physically abusive in the past and this is not something I will put up with (it's actually the REAL reason why my previous relationship ended), especially in front of my 2 year old!
Are my daughter and I better off on our own? Am I just a paranoid wreck and is it my behaviour that's soured things?
I know it's not the end of the world but I never wanted to be a single mum..
I don't want to burden my family futher with my woes so all opinons are welcomed..thank you so much for your time 