I don't think i'm ever going to find a bloke....

[Alambil]

truly... I don't want to snog on the first date, or sleep with them til a LONG time has passed; til I know it's going somewhere at the very least...

no men I can see want that though :(

I'm going to be single forever.... oh well, at least 8 years down the line, I'm kinda used to it

me too

But at least you are not old like me

Actually I am ok with being single atm but just want to be like this long term iyswim.

I want to say that the right man will be prepared to wait but I sound so Judy Blume I'm making myself queasy.

But I do think that he will

LOL Tippy

I do agree though

At least your saving yourself the pain in the long run :)

Curiously what you considering to be a LONG time???

I don't want to find another bloke, because I don't trust myself to make a good choice (based on past experience). I'm not unhappy about it though.

I think nowhere has a valid point.

Be happy within yourself first before you start to look at starting up healthy relationships.

a long time; months... 6 or more most likely

although I got pregnant before marriage (which was not my choice as it happens), I'd love to wait til marriage... but that's an idea that's as old as the ark and makes things even less likely to find a compatible bloke!

That timescale doesn't sound impossible, I'm pretty much the same in that department. Respecting yourself and making sure the guy your with is worth it is the best way to be I say! Too many women feel if they dont jump into bed with the guy when he wants means losing them forever, I say if that's the way he thinks then he aint worth it. Plus you save yourself a heartache for later.

It's only my opinion though so feel free to ignore if you dont agree.

completely agree!

just a shame most blokes I've met, don't!

IIRC you are a Christian? Could you get involved in more church groups or Christian dating sites like www.christianconnection.co.uk? I would guess that you are more likely to find men with the same attitude to relationships there than in the general population.

am reticent - my ex was meant to be a christian, not that it means much... but yes, I should join christian sites...

am going to face a few hurdles there though; not many want single mums from my experience...

ho hum, I'm sure someone will turn up one day

My OH would of waited, so their are men out there that will wait, Hold out girl sure you will find one.

Honestly, the best thing to do is make sure you're happy without one. No one needs a couple-relationship (human beings need other human beings, sure, but you don't live in a vacuum, you have friends and people who care about you) and thinking that having one will 'fix' you is a recipe for disaster.

nah, he won't fix me - will simply enhance me