Dating/meeting men, internet dating, whatever: I feel lost with the whole thing.

[DivineInspiration]

I've had a go at internet dating recently, and I'm just finding it all a bit overwhelming. I don't really have a 'type' - my past DPs have looked completely different, had completely different interests, completely different personalities, done completely different jobs etc. I dunno how to delve through what seems like a torrent of faces. I've seen some profiles I liked, and pictures I thought were attractive, but nothing that makes me need to message somebody. Is this the wrong way to think?! I have the attitude that I have nothing to lose, but I'm still floundering.

I've had a few dates with a man I really liked, but he said the other night that he's had dates with a couple of women and needs time to get his head around what to do next before things get any more serious so he doesn't mislead me. Which was very good of him, all considering, but ultimately means he doesn't want to see me again I guess! I've never really come first with anybody, which is probably why I'm a bit more disappointed about this man than I should be - he was nice and I know he won't 'choose' me to see again.

I don't really have that many options outside of internet dating - I work long hours so don't have a lot of time, I don't particularly enjoy clubbing and pubbing, small circle of close friends so not much new blood, and most of the hobbies I do have time for aren't really prime meeting-new-men territory - gym, book club, am a member of a couple of museums and go to talks and seminars quite regularly. Not exactly social, though.

How does it all work?! How do I do this? I feel like I'll be single forever, really I do!

that is a fascinating article.

so a myspace boobshot with animals and doing something interesting will get me the most responses? I'll bet

Was just gonna say the same thing! Really interesting article. Only I'm smallchested and my cat's expression tends towards misanthropy and general world-hatred - whereas I feel that ample and cute and fluffy is the preferable combo. This is where I'm going wrong, eh.

I have the bazoongas but I would look deranged holding a camera like that. Plus the chicken would just look odd draped over my shoulder

The boobshots get lots of messages, but not the sort of messages that lead to actual conversations, never mind dates.

The pictures that get useful messages are the weird pictures.

Eh, if you own a chicken, a shot of you with a chicken, even with your head not showing at all, might be a hit, iyswim.

That's the plan cockney. I'd need to combine boobs, animals doing something interesting and the weird above head angle to get the most, quality responses.
So me, in me bra, holding the chicken, looking up coyly and playing the peruvian nose flute should get me many dates.

Divine, can I offer you the loan of a hen?

I think I might have more luck if you loaned me the bazoongas and the peruvian nose-flute. Anyway, we can't all pose with the hen, as we would end up dating the same men with the ornithological fetish.

I have three.So one more can join us.

I am aiming at a nice farmer type so I need one. I'll prolly need the bazoongas too. You can have the nose flute.