internet dating...a question

[umma]

I've been chatting to a guy who lives not too far from me...we seem to get on, I think we are equally interested so.....

How do you suggest to meet up?

How soon? Only been chatting for a few days?

and where?! Help! Don't want to look desperate (i'm not!) but would like to meet to see if there is any actual chemistry

If you want to meet him,do it.

Maybe meet up over coffee?

Tell friends and/or family where you are meeting him.

I always leave it to them to suggest meeting up. It works out better for me - when they suggest it, they then always make the effort to travel over to my town to make it easier for me, and it's loads less hassle for me.

Did you answer his ad or did he answer yours? I don't bother answering men's ads any more. I did that with now-ex H and it set the tone for the whole relationship, me being the "chaser". Eww.

I think I messaged him first just saying 'fancy a chat?' he replied that he would love to and had seen my profile...and it went from there. Oh god don't want to look like I've chased him, don't think I have at all, been breazy and causual you know?

Nothing serious has been discussed, all very light at the mo but I'm new to this and wondering how long we just keep chatting for...plus yeah want to be safe too. Any more advice please give! xxx

Thanks

The blokes I meet online usually ask to meet up within the first 10 emails, often a lot fewer. At the very least they'll ask for my phone number. The ones that don't aren't interested. I don't care about them or take it personally - there's a lid for every pot, etc.

If you don't want to chase him, then don't ask him out. Go back through your inbox and reply to some of the blokes who've written to you. This one knows where to find you to ask you out on a date.

Are you getting many emails? If not, get some new photos taken. It's all about the photos. Changing something about your ad will often take you right up to the top of people's searches again, and provoke a flurry of new messages.

I'm getting emails, yes. Most I'm not interested in...him I def am tho!

My photo's are good, I think :-)