Just need to vent about lack of support from OH. I am 13 weeks pg with much-wanted DC3 and my OH has just informed me he thinks he will lose his job in the autumn, and according to him this has been in the offing for some time. I would never have got pregnant if I had known he was facing losing his job.
Background - we put off trying for another baby for years for financial reasons as we could not afford for me to leave work/go part-time. (DCs 1 and 2 are now 10 and 8).
OH got a promotion about 18 months ago which made the money situation better and it would be feasible for me to take maternity leave and then go back to work on reduced hours. so last summer we decided to try again, I fell pg this May.
In the last few months OH has not been happy at work and a few weeks ago started talking about possibly looking around for another job. he mentioned a possibility of VR in the autumn but did NOT say at any point it would be compulsory.
in the meantime he has been pushing me to buy a new car, and suggested we go on an expensive holiday next year! He has also said he feels bad that I "have to" go to work as he does not earn enough for me to be a SAHM.
he rang me this morning at 9.30am at work (my first day back after holiday) to ask me if it would be ok if he were to take a £20K pay cut to go to another job WTF?
I just cant believe this is a nearly 40 year old man I am talking about, he is living in a dreamworld. I explained to him that he was asking me to go back to work fulltime with a small baby (and in fact somehow magically increase my salary) if he wanted to "downshift" like this.
I cant believe I waited so long to have this child in hopefully a financially secure situation and now the rug is being pulled out again.