Been to relate and asked for a separation .. now I feel like a real cow and just so sad.

[scarlotti]

We've been at relate for ages, tonight we've spoken about seperating - either temporarily or permanently, not sure.
It's me that's driving it really, and I do think it's the only way we can possibly move forward but now I feel like a right bitch and am just so sad.
Guess if we didn't have dc's then I wouldn't feel so awful.

Have another session booked for next week to talk about how this will actually work in reality. Have no idea how we're going to manage to get through the next week.

Any support or advice gratefully recieved, but please be gentle..

Sorry you're feeling so sad. How does your DH feel? What issues are causing you to separate?

DH is very upset about it. He said in the session he can see there would be pros for us as individuals but cons for the dc's.

Issues are along the lines of lack of support and partnership from DH, all responsibility sitting with me, not being a team. Think as well we're very different in what we want from a marriage and the type of people we are - I'm much more get up and go than him.

Have to post and run now as baby needs feeding. Will come on again tomorrow and hopefully someone will have some good advice on coping.