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I've lost my mojo

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BirdFromDaNorf · 03/08/2010 14:00

I know this is trivial in relation to some of the other topics on here, but I just don't feel like having sex any more - with my husband, I hasten to add....

I can't be bothered. I'd rather sleep, get in the bath or be on FB or MNet. I can't be bothered. The ratio of my orgasms to his is not great - and we don't snog much when we do. I sometimes go along with it to try and get into it, but really, I just can't be bothered.

I'm on AD for, well, depression, and I know that has an effect, but I've gotten even less interested in last few weeks and, I'm really stressed - self employed - only source of income in the house. We're mortgage free so it's not like we will loose our house.

I just feel so much pressure and worry about work and everything that sex is literally last thing on my mind.

Anyone else feel like this? How often do you have sex? A friend who I've ish discussed this with a while ago reckons they've gone months without and it's not an issue. Have you? Does it matter? I love him, I'm not about to go anywhere else. Just can't be bothered.

What do you think?

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Flighttattendant · 03/08/2010 14:03

When I have felt like this I have either been breastfeeding, knackered or somehow cross with my partner / insecure / uncomfortable about some aspect of our relationship.

I don't know if that's any help.

BirdFromDaNorf · 03/08/2010 18:22

Thank you Flight. Appreciate you replying. I'm completely knackered, finished BF after 3 years of it in May and cross with DH for lots of things. So I could tick the boxes, but I'm still sad that I feel like this.

Maybe I just need to make more effort? I don't see myself going for slinky neglige though

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Collision · 03/08/2010 18:40

sometimes I just cannot be arsed but once I get into it and make some effort then I really enjoy it!

I do love MNetting and sleeping and TV and other stuff and it can take over sometimes but have a drink, dress up so you feel sexy and go for it.

thesouthsbelle · 03/08/2010 18:57

agreed as soon as the kids are in bed. When i really can't be bothered is when i put in more effort by dressing up cos by the time i'm done i'm quite up for it and thankfully dp doesn't take much convincing! Failing that is there a lack of intimacy at the mo maybe you need to re discover that?

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