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i can give dh to dampen his sex drive. i cant cope with all his demands. i am tired and on anti depressents for pmt/menpause and have no interest whatsoeva. he is just not listening, wants the bloody works all the time. helllllppppppp

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Just say no! He is being bloody selfish if he can't accept what you have just said - that is if you have told him how you feel?!

crushed nuts?

i keep telling him, just says let me try and turn you on..........

Has he always been like this or is he just upping the ante to try to 'jumpstart' you so to speak.

The best he can do for you is cuddle and lie together for warmth and understanding. This must be done on the understanding that no sex take place.

Gradually introduce petting, again on the understanding that no sex take place.

Then move on to more exploration. Set a time limit you are comfortable with through all those stages.

Being able to sit and cuddle without being groped or mauled is important to restablish trust and warm feelings. Otherwise his insisting you both have sex all the time will only push you further away.

Are you able to communicate this to him? Take care.

this has been going on for a while. he doesnt do talking, really. jsut says i should understand how bad it makes him feel that i just dont want it. im sitting here dreading bedtime, really dreading it

tell him to bugger off to the bathroom and 'deal' with his needs himself?

have you explained to dh that its not that you find him unattractive? It's just that I was in your dhs position and it did eventually break up the marriage (to be fair, I had to put up with enforced celibacy with no explanation/attempt to understand for 6 years)

have explained. we have sex couple of times a week still but i just dont get as aroused as he wants me to. at least he gets sex but its still not enough, wants me to get pleasure to, im not fussed really

You are going thru the menopause ffs...does he not get this?
Tell him if he doesn't pack in harrassing you, which is basically what this is, you will leave his sorry selfish ass.
It is your body, just cos you are married to him does not make you his property. He cannot just take you out of the wardrobe like a blow up doll, shag you then put you back in.
Tell him you have no interst in sex atm because of menopause...it really does kill all sex drive. He will have to be patient and brecome best friends with his right hand for the time being.