OK, namechanger, and if you recognise me, PLEASE don't tell anyone, reasons will become clear...
DP (to become DH very soon) was asked out for drinks with friends of his brother who died last year. They sat him down and told him that they think that he should know that his brother had a child- a 10 year old. Apparently nobody ever knew for sure (including BIL) but the mother now has proof and would like DP to give some DNA as apparently tests work with close relatives. He is also now meant to tell his parents.
BIL was a bit of a "ladies man", a bit rock and roll, and it is believable, in fact it wouldn't be outlandish for a couple of children to appear. However, he doted on DD1 and surely he would have made the effort to be in contact with his own possible child? He was a good man, but not exactly settled down, so you could imagine him not rushing a pregnant girlfriend down the aisle, but I would have said he would have wanted to be involved. But then I suppose I only really saw him at family things until he was ill.
Why has the mother only revealed herself now? BIL had mentioned something like this to DP, but we thought he was talking about a baby or toddler.
Does anyone have any advice? I really don't know what to do, apart from generally be there for DP. Do we tell DPs parents? Do we meet the mother first? I don't want to upset this woman, but at the same time what if she is making it up? Why would she make it up though? Can DP really provide useful DNA for a test?