long long story,
but I have at the mo major resentment towards XH and his lack of loyalty/priority to his child. over his GF. no issue with the girl I have a DP and have totally moved on, but the girl is put ahead of our (my) son all the time. XH is totally selfish abusive towards me and if not in control or I have a rant at him (ie refusing to let him not see DS after using a pathetic excuse) he won't talk to DS for 2 or 3 weeks at a time and not see him.
tbh he is a crap dad - interested when it suits him only & there's no girl around.
so how do I get over the resentment that he can swan off on holiday for 2 weeks with her spend a shit load of money and not see or ring his child for 4 weeks. then literally not do a thing with his child as he 'doesn't have the money' - funny that isn't it after spending it all.
he comes here stops in my house which at the minute suits me but literally does NOTHING with DS - yet end of the street we have the woods and the other way the sea things that don't cost!
when I asked y'day about him next seeing DS I got told it depends on when she's working till as to if they come down on the friday, or sat, and he'll be taking her home on the sunday then if he has money he'll be back during the week but not sure for how long (XPIL are down for that week,) I have a good mind to tell his mother exactly what her precious son is like with his son but what's the point. in many ways I wish he'd just leave us totally alone, but it's DS who suffers.
also slightly at having a 2 week holiday - i'm lucky to get 5 days in one go and even then I ave to nag him to take DS to see his mum - never away properly. and even then I can't really go anywhere as have 2 dogs. (then again thou I guess that's part of the difference isn't it - I put DS first)