Internet dating - the 'codes'

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so, complete novice to internet dating. Have written a profile but a bit concerned it's reading as 'up for it', when I meant looking to meet new people not just interested in soul mate.

Any tips, things to watch over for?

But thanks everyone for all the great hints and tips. I think I need to work out what I'm looking for a bit more first. And accept that dating other people to get over the one I really want is probably not going to work for me

try no 3 you maybe surprised. Besides look for friends no more no less. Just have a few people to see for a meal coffee or films and stuff but not the rest.

"I used to email people with a polite response, even if I wasn't interested, then gave up as it used to invite abuse/argument!"

I've had that one too. I emailed someone saying I wasn't interested and got an email back basically saying I was sad and pathetic and all he was doing was trying to be a friend. That I was more in need than him and that it was what he expected from a 'wollyback'

I emailed him back advising him to be careful of using photos because with that chip on his shoulder people may think he had two heads . Then I blocked him.

On the other side of the coin, I met someone last night. It isn't going to go anywhere, he was nice but there was nothing there iyswim. I had a nice evening (he said he did too) so it wasn't completely wasted.

I just got this response:

"---sexgod'NAME'69 wrote:
hey u doin much 2moro nyt xx"

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AAARRRGGGHHH TiggyD... these sort of txtspk messages are SUCH a turnoff!!!

You should reply something like: "I have my plans, but as for you, I recommend a spelling course".

anyone calling themselves sexgod'NAME'69 would put me right off

so, am meeting no 3 for a coffee next week. has been very ow key chat, not expecting sparks but seems like could e new friend. know I'm definitely not over mr casual though careful not to give wrong impression

That list made me spit my tea out laughing. Genius.

Well, that's an hour of my life I can't get back!!!

No 3 lol. He is/was very pleasant, and we had a nice conversation but nothing really in common. No desire to see him again even as a friend, because I think he was far keener on me than I was on him so don't think the 'I don't mind hanging out but I don't fancy you at all' line would work (and wouldn't be fair on him tbh)

No 1 I binned after he became very sexually suggestive. Which is a shame because he was really fit