I have posted about this before but I just want to verify everyone elses opinion on this. Basically DP and I have decided to live seperately from each other (as we can't get on with each other's children full time) but carry on the relationship living seperately. He swore he still cared about me, still loved me and still wanted to live with me AFTER the kids had grown up. I agreed. But since then the way he is acting and things he has said has really made me wonder if he gives a shit about me at all.
For one thing, he doesn't seem to give a shit that I'll be leaving with hardly any furniture. I'll be basically taking one chest of drawers and the washing machine. He will be left with a wardrobe, the double bed, oven, fridge, freezer, tumble dryer, TV, sofa, living room cabinet - pretty much everything. Whilst I'll have no bed, no bed for my son (he even moaned about me taking a single matress for my son to sleep on until I could afford him a bed as "he paid for it"! I'll have no oven, no fridge, no TV, no sofa - nothing. Now to me, if you're still in a relationship you wouldn't want your oh to move out like this, surely?? I know I wouldn't let someone I supposely cared about move out with nothing, not even the bare essentials.
Most of the stuff was his before I moved in, he insisted on me getting rid of all my stuff and now he doesn't seem to give a shit, as long as he's ok.
Another thing is some of the things he says. Like he'll say "I don't want to have another relationship with someone else, I don't want to hassle, I just want to stay with you". Am I being paranoid in translating this to say "I'm too lazy to look for a real relationship so you'll do".
He keeps going on about the future and how we can get together after I qualify and get a nice house together, this to me says "don't want you while you're poor but I'll stick around until you qualify for the promise of money"
He says "when we live seperately, we won't have to speak everynight, but we'll be able to go out and do stuff on a weekend". In other words "can't be arsed to talk to you, but when I'm bored on the weekend I'll be in touch".
Another thing is I have a snake and I don't think I'll be able to take him with me. DP keeps saying "you'll have to get rid of it, there's no way you're leaving it here, I don't want it" yet when I first moved in here he had his EX-WIFE'S snake because she couldn't take it with her and he felt guilty making her get rid of it! yet its ok for me to get rid? he wouldn't do the same favour for me??
Ok so am I being high maintanance, paranoid, spoilt brattish or does he really not give a shit about me really? he just wants an easy weekend girlfriend who can relieve boredom and pay half towards holidays once a year?
Yes it was both of our decisions to live seperately but if someone says they care about you and love you, you'd expect slightly more than this, surely???