arrggghh

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exp is supposed to be on stag weekend this weekend. clearly it started yesterday as i got 2 phonecalls to my mobile at 1.30 this morning and 1 to the house which woke ds2 who has had a tummy bug since thursday night. cue ds2 not settling again for 3 hours. needless to say i didn't answer the calls as i knew he would have been drunk at that time of the night. he knows how much i hate him ringing me when he is drunk because he gets quite nasty when he is drunk. he hadn't done it in over a year. i am really cross. we aren't even together now but he still thinks it's ok to disrupt all of us when he is drunk.

i sent him a message this morning saying how thoughtful it was (sarky, i know) for him to ring at that time and wake ds. and how i presume his excuse was that he was drunk so that made it ok. so just carry on doing whatever you want to do and never mind how it affects others.

all i got back was a "sorry"

i am really pissed off about it. probably more than i should be.

Actually, I'd be thoroughly pissed off about it too - probably more than I should be!

Deep breaths etc. and much sympathy. Can you block his calls to your landline?

I'm just going to unlpug teh landline at night and turn the mobile on silent. i don't want to block his calls because we do still need to be in touch regarding dc and it is (was) rare that he did this. i replied earlier saying i didn't think he really was sorry, i probably shouldn't have done but i need him to know it isn't on. he replied saying, "well what do you want me to say?" he says sorry because he thinks it is a get out, not because he is actually really embarrassed about doing it or annoyed that he woke us up. i fel like telling him he shouldn't be drinking if he is causing trouble for people he isn't even with. (he is on england and we are in nortehrn ireland)

sorry for typos. i am a lazy typist.

Presumably though he doesn't need to contact you using the landline, if he can contact you on hte mobile.

no he doesn't need to. he just always has as he gets free calls to the house. I am going speak with him about it the next time he is in touch, i really don't want to have a negative relationship with him and i feel blocking his number, although completely logical as that is what disrupted ds and i would explain that to him, would be perceived by him as a rejection message. silly as it sound sbut that is how he is and i really don't want thinks to get mean because he is good at finding insults were there aren't any. it is not good for the dcs.

You could always say that you can no longer afford the LL and so are switching to mobile only.

I know you really only wanted a rant, so ignore my (less than) helpful suggestions

I hope you get things sorted to your satisfaction and the silly drunken sod doesn't do it again.