So I'm awake waiting to hear from the OH ....

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The OH has gone out for a client dinner - supposed to be driving. I'm 33 weeks pregnant. Not heard from him since about 10pm. Still nothing.

I'm getting a bit worried. I know he'll probably be out somewhere but I'm so cross, I mean who doesn't look at their phone every now and then? I've been calling and texting for about 3 hours. It makes me so angry, what if something was wrong with our baby?

I know I'm in the right. I just know he won't apologise or anything when he gets home Rubbish.

Sorry for the rant, I just need something to do as I can't get to sleep! x

Oh you poor thing.

To be honest, I've done what he's doing; completely lost track of time in a noisy pub, after telling my husband I'd be home at 7 or 8. Left the pub at 11.30 (no watch) to realise that I'd had 12 missed called. I got home and the poor man had even walked the route from the bus stop to our house in case I'd had a fall and was unconscious on the road.

I only did that once, though. When you say he won't apologise, does it happen often?

Try and get some sleep and rest. Take your mind off what a prick hes being. And be glad nothing is wrong with your baby. Give him hell in the morning!

I'm glad there's people awake!

Tortoiseonthehalfshell - He used to drink lots, and be a bit of an idiot. I put up with a lot back then and don't want him slipping back to his old ways. He has calmed down a lot in the past year or so. But generally this kind of thing is not his fault; guaranteed he'll tell me he didn't enjoy it, didn't want to be there, but had to for work.

We'll see what happens. Thanks MaryBS. I am going to try and get a bit of sleep, no idea what time he's going to roll in

When you talk to him tomorrow, I think you're going to have to focus on the future, and the fact that this is not going to be okay when you have a child. Set some ground rules - always back by X time, always contactable, etc. I don't think that's unreasonable with a small child, and while I know this is "had to be there for work" there's no reason he can't leave by midnight, say. I know there's a culture for this sort of thing, but it's almost 4am. That's over and above, that's him choosing to stay out.

It's not even like we live in London - nothing's open here at 4am now (which just makes me more paranoid and cross!).

I know, midnight seems very reasonable to me! He's not going to know what's hit him tomorrow. x

Do you think there's a possible OW? I don't want to make you paranoid, but I'm sure you're already going there.

At the moment I don't think there is, but believe me I have been wondering! He used to be a bit like that, but is now so excited about the baby and our life together in the future that I really really hope not. But then I wonder what his excuse is for being out so late .....

I guess I need to wait until tomorrow x

Do check back in with us if it'll help. "he used to be a bit like that" - do you mean he's cheated on you before?