Hi, so in the middle of it I can't see the wood for the trees. After DD3 was born the industry I worked in took a downturn and my DH who had been a househusband took up the financial reigns. I went back to work when DD3 was 12 weeks and have also worked since around 25 hrs per week since. The problem is my DH is very unhappy that he still has to work as he initially had hoped only to go back to work for around 6 months until my industry picked up. My industry is now picking up thankfully and I am getting job offers which is good, but I am being made to feel so crap that he has spent the last 3 years working so hard. We live as south as you can be and the work is as north as you can be, however he does benefit from a 6 week on 3 week off rotation. I know that I would never leave my children for 6 week so I do totally admire that he is doing this but I can't suffer getting it in the ear all the time. My thought is surely you do what needs to be done to get by and see the family through the hard times, I mean I am looking to secure more money and more work which would allow him to stop the awful shift pattern. I can se the bigger picture but his abilility to not is causing irreversible damage I fear. Is there any one else in same position. I feel so isolated.