sick and lonely

[BaggyAgy]

Hi, Thanks to all your kind support on MN, I separated from my philandering DH. I no longer have to live with his flirting with other women. I am now in our holiday home and we pretend it is not permanent. I have had successfully been treated for cancer, but have a very invasive test tomorrow as the signs of recurrence are ominous. Now that I have no partner I am scared and have no one, not even my less than ideal DH with which to share my fear. I miss his kindness. Crying.

I really don't understand Aggy - you have had cancer and you say you might have it again and yet this seems to be a lesser worry than this character's messing about with other women, whatever form of affair it constitutes.

I think in your shoes I would be so concerned for my health I wouldn't care what he was getting up to.

You need to devote your energies to staying well, not fretting about dysfunctional men - they aren't worth it.

And so what if this woman poaches him? It'll be a poisoned chalice she wins for herself won't it?

Hi, AF , in an ideal world "good" people would ditch " bad" people. Unfortunately perhaps, marriages matter to some of us and are not easily disposable. Feelings get in the way. Besides understanding what occurred in a failed relationship, might just help prevent making the same mistake again. Some of us need answers before we can move on. MN offers a huge range of opinions. Thank you for taking the trouble to post.

msboogie, I am very concerned about my health. Unfortunately it is largely out of my control. It scares me too much to think about it. I tend to concentrate on anything else as a form of diversion.