does anyone else crave for the romance to come back?

[crossma]

How do you do it? I crave for romantic moments/gestures from my dh and sometimes think he probably does too - but how do you do it what can you do with screaming children whenever you are trying to hold hands/give a quick peck/just plain talk?!

Do you snuggle whilst watching the television? Do your kids go to bed at a reasonable time to give you and your dh some peace? Do you have any babysitters you can call on?

My dh is not very romantic, I only get flowers if I have pre-ordered them from him months in advance. For our wedding anniversary he got me an office chair for my desk. For Christmas I got a meat cleaver, for my birthday I got a calculator. They were all needed, practical gifts, but just not very romantic! However I've got used to that now, he shows me he loves me in other ways. We do cuddle when watching the tv, or give each other spontaneous hugs. If we go out anywhere, with or without dd, we do try to hold hands and wrap our arms around each other. And we do try to get out on our own at least once every two months.

You don't have to do much, just a peck on the cheek before each of you goes out, a kiss and hug before you go to sleep, a gentle squeeze here and there. If the children see you, what the heck! It'll do them good to see mummy and daddy showing each other lots of affection too!

My dh isn't one for huge gestures but knows my sweet tooth so when out and about, if he sees new choc or sweets, he buys them for me so I can try them. Makes my day as it means he is thinking of me (and fattening me up ).

Must admit, dd gets a kiss before him when I get in from work

Oliveoil - are you going to any Mumsnetter meet-ups?

Are you in Mcr?

Preston, near enough.

Thats worse than Oldham

Apologies too for hijacking thread, have just Oliveoil a threatening email (she'll be used to it living where she is!). Hope you get some serious responses crossma.

To bring the thread back - i know what you mean and it is hard - even when you only have one and he goes to bed early. There are still all the distractions at home - tidying up, cooking etc. I agree that it is good to go out once in a while - we havent been out for ages on our own even though have potential baby sitters around - feel guilty spending the money on it - but that is another thread! Sit down and tell your DH how you feel - i did the other day and has helped a bit as we both know that we need to try a bit harder! but agree is good for the children to see their parents being affectionate. Our DS (19 months) always wants to join in so ends up being dribble fest!

My DP is not very romantic yet he said something that I thought was v.sweet if not a little strange the other noght -

He goes to counselling (long story on another thread somewhere) and I am often the topic of the conversations he has with therapist - he started laughing the other night when I said the word potato - I asked him why he was laughing and he said that he was at counselling and they were talking about me and the therapist asked him what I reminded him of - his response was Mr Potato and it is weird because the whole idea is that with MPH you chnage it constantly - but he said that he loves me so much as I am that he thinks of me as his special Mr Potato Head which he put together before even knowing me.

V strange - but I thought it was a romantic thing to say and made me cry and obviously worked because did not get much sleep that night he he