Think I need to make some new friends :(

[Tortygirl]

Hi everyone,
Just need somewhere to come and get rid of some pent up emotions.
I broke my leg in two places on 10th June and needed major surgery. I spent a couple of weeks in hospital before coming home and although things are gradually improving, I am still housebound spending most of my time on the sofa. My family have been great. I am truly blessed and wouldn't have coped without their support. However my best friends who I have known since I was 4. (now 37) haven't been to see me (well one did ONCE in hospital), don't phone and haven't even contacted me on facebook! I don't really have any other friends that I felt that close to. Before this happened I rang them every day. I am a bit shy and have epilepsy that is poorly controlled which makes making new friends quite difficult. My "friends" say that if they don't hear from me then they know I am not well. Isn't that MORE of a reason to call someone?? I am finding myself getting increasingly depressed and upset about this and feel totally isolated. I have even left it up to 5 days to see how long it would take before they ring and, you've guessed it!... nothing!! I end up calling them
To top all this, it is the anniversary of my mums death today. My mum died really young (22years ago) but it still hurts. They know this but I have heard nothing. I text them a few weeks ago when they had a similar anniversary and just got "thanks" as a response.
Am I wrong to be feeling so hurt or am I expecting too much?

Did you realise you were doing all the running before you broke your leg?

In a word... yes but thought they MAY be a bit better now this has happened.
They have always said that I am the best friend they have and that nobody else really bothers. (I wonder why??)
My best friends are sisters and live in the same house. One had cancer a couple of years ago. I was there every step of the way. Their mum sadly died last year. Again I was there.
I think they think "It's ONLY a broken leg" and maybe think I should be up and about by now. I still cannot do much at all. I have had a rod inserted into my leg with three incision sites. I don't even think they know this.
I try to be a good friend and think I am a good friend.
I must say I have heard more from two people I met whilst in hospital than I have heard from them. Unfortunately, one lives an 8 hour drive away and the other is 82. (I have stayed in touch with her because her family don't seem to give two hoots about her).
Last time I phoned them I was a bit cheeky and said "Hello Stranger!" The reply I got was "I could say the same about you!"
I just said that I found it hard to get off the sofa, let alone get to the phone. This was a white lie... the phone is next to me all day... it just never rings

Sorry FOUR incision sites! lol!!
Mustn't make light of this now!! lol!!
See, I have a sense of humour too!

Poor you! I don't think that your experience is atypical, sadly! When a similar thing happened to me, I got most help from another mum at the school that I barely knew. She phoned me up to help as soon as she heard about my accident, and I was just so grateful. Another friend said afterwards how she'd just been too busy to get in touch - I feel differently about that friend now, and won't be so quick to help her as I had been in the past. Good luck with your leg!

Thanks.
I don't really have any other friends that I see (or don't see in this case).
Think I am going to have to try and get out and make some new ones but I do find it difficult and it takes me a while to gain confidence around new people. I have always been shy but having the epilepsy now doesn't help and I find it hard getting myself out there.
However, once you get to know me, I don't shut up!! lol
Just feeling very isolated and dissapointed.

Well, one of them has been on FB in the past hour referring to someone who she knows through me as "Sis" and saying how much she loves her.
Must say it hurts a lot
Maybe I am just feeling over sensitive because I am immobile.