Briefly: together 7.5 years and recently engaged (his choice, v.shocked on my part!) I have an 8 year old DS. He was made redundant Aug 2009 and has been temping ever since. He's miserable, angry and has lost all confidence. He has no motivation at the moment and is generally in very low spirits. But he's never before been a liar.....
Friday night, DP an I went to a fancy dress party. 'Twas a good laugh and we all had a bit to drink but not to the point of being slaughtered or anything. I was actually sick towards the end of the night, but not through being out of my tree - nooooooooo - I was completely with it. I had actually just backed a glass of Tia Maria and Orange Juice, which I think must have curdled in my stomach, hence the trip to the loo. I remember virtually everything from what was a very good night, and carried on unperturbed after the vomming incident...
Our group of friends has always enjoyed bad jokes and light-hearted banter. I NEVER get in rows with anyone and know the difference between gentle ribbing and being a bitch. I had a laugh and got on well with everyone at the party. Just like I normally would. I know this.
My DP however, decided to inform me yesterday in the middle of an argument that I was apparently a "right bitch" to one of our closest male friends and was relentlessly horrible to him under the guise of humour to the point where he looked very upset. I know this not to be true at all. I told him he was mistaken. He very angrily disagreed and accused me of accusing him of being a liar. Said I was hammered to point of being sick so I must not remember because I was so pissed but I was definitely out of line. I told him that I wasn't pissed, was only sick owing to illness and I remembered everything. I told him he had got it wrong once again and he said that I was a fool - he was only trying to help me modify my shocking behaviour. We left it that.
This morning I picked up my mobile and began texting our mutual friend to apologise for my "supposed" bad behaviour (I'd decided to give DP the benefit of the doubt just in case I'd gone mad and blanked out the portion of the evening where I'd apparently been such a cow. DP asked me who I was texting, so I told him who and why. He looked really angry and shouted "Oh don't bother - you'll just make everything worse!" I said of course I won't - if I've been out of order, our mate might appreciate an apology and plus, I want to do the right thing after all. Unless you've got it wrong of course?
DP looked pretty panicky and started a huge row about what an idiot I apparently am. I asked him to tell me what exactly I'd said that was so bad and he had nothing. So I sent the text.
Predictably, my friend phoned back and told me he didn't know what the fuck I was talking about, that I was fine and if anything, an absolute pleasure. "Who told you that", he said? So I told him what DP had - vaguely - said and he confirmed with me that nothing of the sort happened. We then had a really lovely chat about various rubbish for the next hour and a half and things were as good as ever.
After the phone convo had finished, I told DP that our friend had confirmed I was right and he went mad again; "Oh I'm the bad guy, am I?!" I asked him why would he say what he did, when it was so obviously not true?! I asked him to again confirm what it was that I had banged on about so 'relentlessly', as he put it, that had offended our friend so much. Again, he could come up with NOTHING - no specifics and started mumbling about me knowing he had a memory like a sieve. He then tried the whole "Oh I must have got it wrong then - I was pretty far away". I said that's funny - yesterday you were right next to us and horrified by my runaway mouth!!!
The argument carried on for a bit (you know - all the usual grievances that come up) and then petered out. But with no real resolution. I've been left very confused as to why he would lie about such a thing. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? They'd be very much appreciated.....
Apologies for length!!!