i am such a stupid gullible twat

[MrsDrOwenHunt]

well quick back story left h due to dv over 2 years ago and since then have been trying to get my life back on track. ex and i are on speaking terms and he sees ds roughly once a week, he comes to see him and i am always present. took ds to london thursday to see him and he took ds friday so i could go shopping, this am however he started at me asking me why i had only given ds croissants for breakfast? he got up at 11am (after ds had been badgering him since 9am to play with him) said i spent more time on my horrible hair and calling me a junkie, i packed our bag and got ds ready to leave and he just showed the real man he was by calling me a bitch ans spitting in my face. also said that was it i could have the divorce ( my solicitor sent him papers to consent to divorce on 2 year seperation rule and he ignored them) i then came across london sobbing like a twat and poor ds was saying daddy is mean isnt he? i love you mummy, i dont love daddy, i dont want him to feel like this but i cant be near his daddy again, i dont wanna do contact centre, but i am worried if he takes me to court he will get joint custody and there is no way he is staying with him, feeling v sorry 4 myself now

You poor thing, that sounds so awful. You aren't a stupid gullible twat. You just tried to do the right thing with your son and your ex was a raging dickhead.
Your DS sounds so lovely, I think a contact centre would be best, considering his temper I certainly want ds to have to put up with that.
Mention this to your solicitor, would it be worth getting a restraining order so you don't have to deal with him like this again?
I hope you're ok, just try and cool down with a cuppa and read your ds his favourite story and have a nice cuddle x

he spat in your face

that's horrific

and has upset DS.

i think a contact centre is certainly the way forward, if he also can't be bothered getting up with Ds at 9am, why would he get or want joint residency??

you must tell all this to your solicitor

and what is wrong with croissants?

he is a cock lulu, i am seeing solicitor on monday so will tell her all then, i am just emotionally exhausted at the moment, and god knows what is wrong with croissants he was just searching for a row, once a dick always a dick. hi btw i used to be mehdismummy lulu

sugar i was in a womans aid refuge, this serves me right for being a idiot and trying to let him be a daddy, i was at my sisters house but she was asleep as usual and missed it all and tbh she is no help at all

i thought it was you, chick xx

yes silly old me!! i will never learn eh!

You were trying to give your ex the benefit of the doubt and let your ds have a relationship with him. Okay so it bit you in the bum but now you know he isn't ever going to change and to not bend over backwards for your ds to have contact at all costs.

Well done for leaving and well done for be the strong woman that you are x

yes i suppose in my heart i hoped he would be better and he has just proved that he cant change, this has given me the kick up the arse i needed.

Oh MrsDr... Why didn't you say something girly? FFS, send me a flipping email on FB or something! Don't go through this alone!!!

Ok so he is a twat, he was raised to be a twat and nothing will ever change him to be a decent human being, and certainly never a decent father. Even if he were enlightened enough to ever pick up a parenting book or look at an internet forum, he's been raised to be so arrogant as to know that he doesn't have to do a thing for his DS and certainly never for you.

There is nothing flaming wrong with croissants for breakfast... otherwise the whole of France would be under care of les services sociales

You need to get your (fabulous) self to the CAB and/or solicitor asap. You need to get this spitting and verbal assault written down and logged and tbh, you need to get as far away as possible from that twat as possible... not like he's paying you maintenance is it? so nothing lost.

DS is getting to the age where he sees what is happening to you and he'll know it's not right.

Don't ever allow yourself or your DS to be alone with him again. Contact centre all the flipping way AS LONG AS he plays ball. The minute he starts abusing you, you stop it all and get a pissing injunction.

You know where I am, you know that I'm here to listen.

Oh you poor girl, don't blame yourself! This man is a total shitbag, but you were doing your best for your DS. As others have said, get it all legally formalised and keep him at a good distance, contact centre etc. Remember it's all his fault. ALL his Fault. He has chosen to behave badly.

whate veryone else has said ! you're not silly ! don't dare say that

you were brave and strong and got your self and DS away from him, he can't stand that, so tries to bring oyu down